[ddahl]

Over the last year I find myself extreemly emotional when we do things with DS. I watch him and I am literally overcome with emotion. For example, we attended the Wiggles concert here in South FLorida. He totally loves the wiggles.

So there we are in our choice center stage seats with our drinks and Feather sword hats and swords tee shirts and he starts waiving at Anthony. He waives over and over " Hi Anthony! Hi Murray! Hi Wags and Jeff" He dances and sings like a Rock star with his wiggles guitar and everytime I look at him I start to cry just a little bit for the first 20 minutes we are there. He says "Mommy Ant-tee-dee sees me he is waiving at me!" Then I cry! Not sobbing but tears are rolling.

We went to sea world and watched the new Believe show and I am watching Mason and not the Whales. Like a total freak I am emotional again. Its just that he is so beautiful to me and I love him like I never thought possible.
I don't do this durring the day or very often but why is this happening?

Does anyone else feel this way or am I on an E ticket ride to Prozac?

I am just wondering if anyone else is a total marshmellow? I just had this feeling at the concert and its something like this:

I knew I wanted to be a Mommy and all of the years I tried and tried to have a baby, I knew I was missing out. Never in my wildest dreams could I have understood what it is I would truley be missing. The main ingredient is the baby but its the other things you just don't know about. Its the things you can't imagine because you just don't know. Perhaps I am amazed at how truly wonderful it is on the inside of Motherhood. From the outside of mothrehood looking in you simply can not imagine what you are missing.

Well, what do you think? Any other mushy Mommies out there?

[Ebadge90]

Sounds normal to me. As a father that went through egg donation and invitro sessions, I know exactly what you mean. The best thing that has happened to me is my son. And every day brings on new best things.

[MamaChinch]

Mushy Mommy #2 here !!!! Delaney loves the Wiggles, too! She even had a Wiggles b-day birthday party! We listen to the Wiggles CD in the car....

But yes, I find myself crying at situations like that all the time!! I play the piano and Delaney likes to play it, too, but a while ago I was playing the piano, all classical music, and Delaney was just dancing away, having a blast! She kept telling me to play more so she could dance more. I just started crying, it was something I had always pictured myself doing with my child and it was happening!

OMG, there are so many more moments like that, I can't even list them....so you are not alone Mushy Mommy #1 !!! I always think it's the combination of always wanting a child, what we all have been through, along with knowing what these children's lives could have been like. I am mostly so happy with emotion that she is happy.

We were at friend's house last month who lives about an hour and half away and she was playing with my friends three kids in the son's bedroom, then comes out to me and puts her hands on her hips and says, "I'm having TOO fun!" I started tearing up in friend's kitchen because I was glad, but I was also glad she felt like she wanted to tell me!

So mush away, Mama! You deserve it!!!! Being a Mommy is THE best thing in the world!! I am starting to cry right now......

[dlhall]

I'm a mushy mommy too. There are times I just look at my kids doing something sweet and the tears well up in my eyes. I think a lot of it is just pure joy at having these two beautiful kids in my life; I can't imagine not having them.

Liz

[GCS]

I tear up everytime I tuck my kids in at night so I'm a lost cause.

For me too it is this time of year - we just celebrated our 3rd family day and the holidays always remind us of this.

I think that since we are still seriously talking about number 3 we are more in tune to how far our little ones have come.

Pass the tissues!

[Sue64]

Happened to me last night for no reason while my dd was swinging in her swing and then again today as I stood in the Santa line at the mall. I've been total mush lately - you're not alone

[tbristow]

It's happened to me too and a lot more this year I think. I absolutely cannot talk about the time between trips and have yet to watch the trip 2 video. All of a sudden the background on my computer is St. Isaac's Cathedral and I'm going through the digitial pictures over and over. I just assumed that #1 the 3rd anniversary of the trip 1 call is the 24th, trip 1 was 12/3-12/10, and we're trying SO hard to save for Kayden that it's putting me on overload. Given your situation, that may be you too.

[Jen_in_OH]

Wait until a teacher tells you good things about your child. For whatever reason parent/teacher conferences are very emotional times for me. I am just so proud of how far they have come that when someone else recognizes their strengths, I want to sob like a baby. Maybe it is relief? Maybe it is joy? I'm really not sure. I think it is both relief that they are adjusting and joy that they are MINE.

I do know that on vacations, DH and I will look at each other and feel so blessed. We have great kids who have blessed us in so many ways....AND there would be no joy of a Wiggles performance in a Russian orphanage. How can you not get emotional about that?

So maybe you an emotional mess, but you are in good company!!

Jen

[Bcelli]

Sometimes, life is too overwhelmingly beautiful.

[votemom]

welcome to motherhood. it's par for the course! and those tears are Premium Variety and Highly Valued!

[randloar]

I notice everyone posting here has been home roughly more than 2 years.........
So, I guess the tears transition away from frustration somewhere along the way.......that is wonderful!!!! Don't get me wrong, we have had countless happy moments, but not to the level of what is described here (sounds horrible to admit that!), but thanks for starting this thread, it helps to see what we have to look forward to!!!!! It will be a welcome change for us!!!!

[angelkisses0102]

I truly believe that *in general* we appreciate more those things which we really had to work hard for...I know that is very true for me. So in adoption since the road to our children is often a broken one with many detours, I do think many of us really do take the time to smell the roses and apprreciate all those little things that we may have wondered would ever happen to US!

This mom broke down in tears at DD's Thanksgiving play today...why may you ask? Because there was about 80 K-3rd graders singing and signing a beautiful Thanksgiving song and my DD was right in the middle of it all!?!

I swear I was the only parent in place crying.

Randloar...hang in there...sometimes it can take a little while to lose those other tears and finally find these tears...not that I would know anything about that. LOL! Give it some time!

[DET62]

I am a Mush Mama too, at times. It's mostly joy tinged with gratitude and awe, because my kids came so close to never being adopted. Most people would never even consider a 13 year old girl, or a boy missing his right hand. However, my faith guided me through my adoptions and I ended up with the greatest kids in the world. Every time we have a "hug sandwich" [me in the middle between both kids] I fight tears.

I know birth parents often have strong emotions, too, but I think as adoptive parents our experiences are much more fraught with anxiety until we get our little ones home, and we never truly get over that, I believe. It makes us celebrate moments that others might take for granted.

Happy Thanksgiving!
Dee

[mcanvasback]

I get a lump in my throat every time I "check" Bella when she's sleeping. I had tears the first night she tried to "sing" along with me during nighttime rocking.

But the best is seeing her with my mother - we are close, and she suffered and waited right along with me for so long. She's had a hard few years. She and Isabella absolutely adore one another and seeing the joy on their faces when they are together is awesome.

[SingleMama2B]

I'm part of the Mush Brigade!!! I can be sooo upset with "A", and 1 minute later, I am smiling at her (though I do not let her see!). I always look in on her before I go to bed at night, and I just stand there staring at her in true amazement!

I had parent/teacher conferences last night. "A" had to come with me, as there was no one to watch her. Anyway, I am in constant contact with her teacher's anyway, but still wanted to make sure there wasn't anything, even little that was happening. Long story short... I got the biggest kick out of walking around her school with her (leading the way),and the other kids that had to tag-a-long with their parents all saying Hi to "A". I was amazed that she knew everyone that we saw... Mind you, her school is huge! There are 1,900+ kids (2nd-5th grade). She was polite and saying hi to their parents, etc. The teachers where giving glowing reports, and her 1st quarter report card is... All A's and one B! Talk about being proud! She works sooooo very hard with her learning delays, and just amazes me all the time!

See.... I told you I'm a MUSH TOO!