[nhook]

Since we are on the subject of work, has anyone had difficulty getting an employer to sign an employment letter once or twice or taking time off at the last minute to travel.

I am a little scared about that if we adopt again since I began a new job.

[cathvash]

Dixie, I am so sorry that things did not work out for you at your job! BTW - I am also an exempt (salaried) employee, and where I work, that means that you put in the hours that are required to fulfill your job requirements. This type of compensation status generally is used when the workload fluctuates from time to time in your role, and they then don't have to worry about paying OT or docking salary during slower weeks. There is no expectation to put in more time than in a traditionally compensated or hourly job. (Occasionally I have to work 50 hours a week, but sometimes I only work 35 hours.) Companies that use this as an excuse to force expectations for uncompensated overtime are unethical in my book!

I know it is hard, but this will give you the opportunity to spend some extra time with your son. If you do decide to go back to work, I feel certain a better opportunity is waiting for you. Sometimes these things are "supposed to" happen. If you do interview for another job, just tell them you chose to leave because you were seeking a more balanced life. You don't need to give the details, and if they are a good company, they will understand this!

Enjoy this time with your family, whether you choose to stay home for only a while, or for a long time. It sounds to me like your job was not a good fit. You were "supposed to" move on! Good luck!!

[mom to be]

Hope everything works out the way you want it to.Please pm me I have been trying to get in touch with you, would love to get mason and zoe together!!
sue

[hg808]

Dear Dixie,

I understand completely what you are going through, especially with your management "requiring" near-constant non-paid overtime, super-human demands, etc. I worked for several years in a job where we would have to work every Saturday from November till March, plus stay later almost every day. Non-paid of course. The turnover rate was very high. My supervisor even got into a car accident on his way to work on Saturday because of stress. I always remember how angry they were when I couldn't make it to the office one Saturday because of freezing rain and long commute.

You will be much better off when you are able to spend more time with your beautiful son and then finding a job where they can really appreciate your hard work. You deserve much more than you are getting from them. Maybe it's G-d's way of getting you out of a job where you feel miserable. You are a brave person for taking the road that requires more effort and works for your family. I firmly believe that such things happen for a reason and you will find a job that's right for you. Don't get upset; let your ex-manager see how they will cope with the workload when you're gone. I am sure that in the end you will come out a winner.

Best, warmest regards,
Helen

[MominPA]

Good luck to you. Things will fine a way to work out.

I just got "let go" last Thursday. Me and about 2/3 of my former fellow employees. I am going to use this time to reallythink what I want to do. I have suggested to my husband that we move to NC. His parents live in Charlotte and I know they would help us out until we got on our feet.

I just keep this song in my head from Green Day to keep my thoughts positive.

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don't ask why
It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life.

Again good luck to you!

[Sally26]

Dixie, I'm sorry for the way you were treated and feel bad that you are stressed, but at the same time I want to Congratulate you for doing the right thing! I think you are awesome to have stood up to them!

I'm praying that either God shows yall the way to doing it with you not going back to work or a new opportunity comes along that works better for you and your family.