[Chris3148]

I know there are a few of you out there that have heard about a bio sibling after your adoption and have decided to go back and adopt them. I am hoping you can share your experience.

I was hoping to really know about how the transition went for your child already at home. Did they know their bio sibling already? Was the sibling older or younger? Were they jealous? Did they regress in their attachment to you? How long was your child at their forever home before you adopted the second sibling? And if you by any chance had adopted two siblings at once, then went back for a third sibling, how did that go for your two children home already?

God, I can't even believe I am asking these questions.......

Thanks in advance!

[Abdulina]

Is the bio sib/sibs older or younger? We've never gone back for sibs though we've tried (long story). But what we've found from adding more, talking to the kids before hand helps alot. I wish you all the best in your decision. Going from 2 to 4 for us was the hardest part. Seemed like we were out #'d all the time. and, we were--LOL. But as w/ any adoption, after the initial shock wears off, the kids just seem to blend as if it were meant to be. You will have that initial sibling rivalry of wanting moms' attention. But presenting the upcoming adoption to your children in a way that makes them "momy's helpers" instead of big sisters/brothers makes it oh, so much easier. Alex always said oh, I'll help Bojan b/c he doesn't know where this is or that is. and he needs more time w/ you like I used to , right mom? So, just my two cents. If you feel like the sibs belong to your family, then go for it! Good luck.

Take care,

[DCD]

I got the call last August about my dd bio brother. Understand that I kept telling her that it was her bro that we were picking up, but she was only 2 and didn't really understand. He was a year and she was about 2 3/4 when he finally came home.

Again they didn't know each other before and really do not get it at all. She is very spoiled and is having a little bit of trouble with him. She has come a long was since July when he came home. So he has only been home 2 months.

I think they have adjusted great!! She has always been a handful and continues to have her moments. She plays hard and sometimes he has trouble handling her, but she does have a great heart.

I know in the end it is going to be wonderful for them both. Let me know if I can answer anything else. It is all very fresh for us. I wouldn't have passed it up for anything. The hard work is so worth it.

Good luck!!

Dina

[jaw's mom]

We are in the process right now of adopting my sons bio sibling. We are trying to prepare him for the arrival. We have framed a picture of his brother that we kiss every night before bed. We also pray for baby brother during our good night prayers. We also talk about his friends that have brothers and sisters, and that they all live together in the same house. He is 2.5 years old. I think he is getting it. My sister-in-law had her 3rd baby last week. My son informed her that he is getting a brother, too! Our two boys will be something like 17 months apart. We don't know his exact birthday.

I do know that we can't wait to make this new addition to our family! Things usually have a way of working out. Good Luck!

[cherylanderson3]

We adopted our son, Erik Nikita, from Tolyatti, Samara Region in Nov, 2003. He was 9 mos old when he came home. Sept, 2004 rec'd a call that he had a baby sister, 4 mos old at the time....so Mom was pregnant when we were in Russia completing our first adoption, which is an intriguing passage on its own now that we know this. Brought our daughter home April, 2005. They are 15 mos apart !! Our son was a bit young to understand, but he understood more than we thought he would. When we came home, he was at the airport w/ my MIL and when we walked thru the terminal at OHare airport and saw him he came running up and said to his baby sister "I am so happy you are home, I have missed you being so far away and so glad you found me", this all from a 2 year old. We talk very openly about our children being adopted and about their parents...they have the same mother and father. They act like most 2 and 3 year olds. Our son, Erik, who is the older one, always thanks us for bringing his sister home because he would have "been lonely his whole life".

When we embarked on this journey, the thought was one child, but when he came home, we already were thinking about number two...and number two found us. God always has a plan, and it was fate.

So now, here we are thinking about number 3, but an older child. Going thru the thought process of how will that work w/ the bond of our younger ones.

Our children do have 3 other 1/2 siblings, all older...someday we do hope to try to connect with them.

So that is our story.....

Cheryl

[Chris3148]

Thanks everyone, you gave me a lot to think about.

Our situation is a little different, as it is an older sibling that we found out about. They did all know eachother at one time, but we have been told that they do not remember each other. (Who knows though) Anyone else have that situation????

Thanks again.

[erickk]

Chris-

Off topic--but did you go to court on March 13th in Novosibirsk??? That is the same day we had court--so we must have met each other in the hallway! Congratulations on being home with your girls and I hope everything turns out with their sibling.

Karen