[Jim_in_PA]

Adoption is not just an "OR" situation...it is also a wonderful "AND" opportunity. Even if you are medically able to have another biological child, adoption is a perfectly valid and great way to build your family further.

[intladoptionblog]

Originally Posted by awaitingagirl

Cool, thanks. I looked at it a bit this morning. I'm really dreading the wait again. We arent even up on our agencies webiste yet, patience is not one of my virtues

Ahhh. The wait. I wrote about that, too...
<http://international.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/torture-by-time-aamp-events>

Certainly the most difficult part of the process. If we could always count on just 9 months! Wouldn't that be great?

[awaitingagirl]

Ya, see I think thats the problem. My first 2, obviously 9 months, even my daughter, it was about if not less, 9 months. Im afraid now that we have 3 kids, the wait for that right birth mom and child may be longer!

[susanandgrace]

I just thought I would bump this to the top again in case someone has this question and wants to read all of the wonderful responses!

[votemom]

have you made any decision?

[tbristow]

I am 38 with bio dd's that are 18.5 and 11. DH is 43 with bio dd's that are 19 and 13. We adopted our wonderful DS (now 3) two years ago. He has fit in very well with our family (perfect match). I can honestly say that I love him every bit as much as my bio children and we hope to go get him a little brother in a few years.

DH and I tried for awhile to have a child biologically together, but in the end, age was a factor in our decision too.

[dcsudell]

Hey, thanks for reposting. We have a 7 1/2 yo bio son, and we have secondary infertility. About a year into treatments I turned to my husband and said, "I think we hit the genetic jackpot (yes, I am little biased about my son), why don't we adopt...". He said NO WAY. I would bring it up ever few months, same response. Well, after 2 ivfs and lots of our friends being pregnant with their 3rd and 4th child (oh, and my husband's boss has 4 children adopted from Russia, and the oldest is my son's soulmate!)... Let's adopt, from Russia, and I want a girl. Well, its been almost 2 years since that proclamation.. quite a roller coaster, lots of grieving for me, and then lots of waiting.

We were recently in Russia to meet a blind referral, that we, unfortunately, had to turn down. My son was distraught. So, we are proceeding and he is excited... however, I don't think he really understands how different it will be when she (or he... that changed after our last trip!) comes home!

[DoreenG]

I had 3 bio children before adopting.

Adoption was always our choice. We just did bio first. We knew our family would not be complete until we adopted our final child.

[susanandgrace]

Votemom

Yes, we have made a decision. We are going to adopt domestically . I can't believe we have been researching, praying, trying to understand Gods plan for us, etc.

But we feel comfortable with this decision and plan to submit our paperwork to get things rolling this month!

I just thought I would bump this page up because I found it to be interesting and a lot of people are in this same situation.