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07-14-2006, 10:03 AM
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Post adoption blues
Hi everyone,
I usually post on the China forum, as we have adopted our daughter from China seven months ago. I posted a thread on that forum about Post Adoption Depresion and was told there are several threads over here on that issue. I would really love to read what others have to say about it, and how they got over the depression, but can't find any of those postst. Can anyone help? 
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07-14-2006, 10:06 AM
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Check for threads from angelkisses. She has shared lot of info. PM her, she may have info to send you too. She is very open and this is one of topics that she is passionate about.
Good for you for recognizing that you need some help. That is half of the battle. I hope that you feel better soon.
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A Mom No Longer Waiting! Tver, Russia - Oct 2003 Last edited by waitinginnj : 07-14-2006 at 10:08 AM.
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07-14-2006, 10:18 AM
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Hi Katia555.... glad you came over. I posted to you, and "Angelkisses" is a wealth of information!!! She will be glad to help ya!!
Feel better soon! Blessings...................
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07/23/04 08/06/04 Summer Hosted 08/19/04 Homestudy Completed 09/01/04 All paper > Moscow 09/29/04 Call fr RU Agency:Aunt trying to stop Adoption 10/15/04 RU called saying If adoption continues not til Spring 05 12/14/04 SURPRISE CALL Be on Plane in 4 DAYS 12/20/04 Arrive Moscow 12/23/04 COURT 4:55 MosTime Anya is my DAUGHTER 12/26/04 10 Days NOT Waived home 01/16/05 Return to Process Anya out of RU 01/23/05 Flight Cancelled! Blizzard in NY 01/25/05 Arrive at JFK with my DD
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07-14-2006, 11:24 AM
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I suffered from this for a while. Definitely see your doctor about it. I took some time off from work, with the kiddie still going to daycare. That, coupled with good meds, really has helped a lot.
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07-14-2006, 11:46 AM
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Karen Mom to Zack (4 year old bio) Sent in the application 2/15/05 GOTCHA! 11/22/05 Back at home 11/27/05 Welcome Katie!
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07-14-2006, 12:26 PM
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Hello from the resident PAD's sufferer!
 And I have been known to get on the PAD's soapbox.  Definitely check out this forum...which I used to be very active on... http://forums.adoption.com/forumdisplay.php?f=2831 This thread in particular from this forum.... http://forums.adoption.com/showthread.php?t=207306&highlight=PAD%27s And another... http://forums.adoption.com/showthread.php?t=234650&highlight=PAD%27s I strongly suggest speaking with your family doctor...only they can determine what treatment is right for your situation. I did need medication for well over a year...but am currently off the medication. I am so sorry you are suffering with this...if you have any questions...either post here or pm me (but I am slow responding to PM's sometimes...  )All the best.
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Proud Mommy to two...who have taught me I can not change their pasts but I can change me and the way I parent them~ *Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~now 7, in 2nd grade and such a lovely little lady!  *Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 5, in Kindy and such a 5 year old boy!  'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.' ~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts Last edited by angelkisses0102 : 07-14-2006 at 12:29 PM.
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07-14-2006, 12:29 PM
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I suffered from this also. I would definately see your doctor. I required medication to help me.
I would also be happy to answer any questions you may have. Vicki
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Mother of Alexander adopted from Stavropol region November 2003 visit my blog Life with Alexander the Great Russian Adoption International Adoption  
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07-14-2006, 01:11 PM
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I'm still in the middle of getting through this - although I haven't used meds, I definitely have become an "expert" in my own right from reading everything I can get my hands on and talking about it. That is the first step - to admit there is a problem...it's sometimes the quiet part of adoption, which can make you feel alone and compound the issue even more. You are not alone!!!
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"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." - Thomas Edison http://kretzklan.blogspot.com/
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07-14-2006, 07:39 PM
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wow! I did not know about this other forum! I have had my moments of sadness...don't think it is a real problem, but it is especially helpful to know that these feelings are common and that I am not alone!
The worst of it only lastest the first few weeks, but now that I know about this other forum, I will learn what I can so that I can identify if it becomes more of a problem...thank you!!
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Praying for a baby girl under 1 year 10/7/04 Signed with Agency 12/04 Completed home study 1/21/05 Completed Dossier 1/25/05 Received I-171H 3/7/05 Dossier to Kemerovo  9/30/05-Got THE CALL! 10/11/05-Had to let her go...medicals  11/05-turned down second referral....medicals Dec. 05-Expired dossier redone Dec 05-sent dossier to Izhevsk 3/13/06 received REFERRAL!  3/16/06 ACCEPTED HER!!  4/8/06...First trip!!!!  Lost referral in-country got a new one! 4/11/06 Signed for a 9 1/2 month old girl!! 5/16/06 Leaving on Trip 2 COURT DATES May 23 and 25th! 5/26/06 GOTCHA!! our prayers have been answered!! We welcome our sweet angel Hannah to our family! 6/2/06 Home forever! 
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07-14-2006, 11:44 PM
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I definitely experienced this also for about 6 weeks. My husband had major surgery 5 days after we were home and for about 2 weeks his prognosis was not good. That coupled with the fact that we were overwhelmed and exhausted led to depression. It really helped me to admit how hard this was and get some respite (from both hubby and daughter). Just half a day here and there made ALL the difference. As adoptive parents we often wait so many years for a child that when the miracle finally happens we feel we don't have the right to whine ans complain like other new moms. Bringing home a child at any age is stressful and exhausting---reach out to others, get the help you need, and this will soon pass.
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3 agencies! 3 countries! Started adoption process 1/10/04 3/04 Completed Dossier for Azerbijan 4/04 Azerbijan closed 5/04 New agency, new dossier Rep of Georgia ROG never happened. 09/20/04 Domestic situation #1 fell through 03/28/05 Domestic situation #2 fell through 6/1/05 Learned about waiting child in Russia 6/5/05 Changed agencies-accepted referral 6/24/05 Trip 1 Trip 2 Canceled 3 times 9/16/05 Trip 2 9/20/05 Court! 09/24/05 HOME!!!!!
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07-15-2006, 09:52 AM
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Thanks, everyone. I am reading through the links you provided. I am shocked that I would end up with PADS but it helps to finally admit to myself that I have it, and to hear that I'm not alone in having these feelings. My daughter and I are leaving for Europe for a month to see my family, maybe it will help to talk to them. (I don't have very many friends in the States, no real support system.) Will get back in touch after we return... and I think I will see a doctor then. I know I need some help....
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