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#16
05-27-2006, 02:33 PM
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I sent you a pm about a ranch in Northwest Montana near Eureka that specializes in this situation.
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05-27-2006, 05:05 PM
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I wish the best for you and your family. I know this could not be an easy decision to make. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Elissa June 1999 - Welcome Home Josh! 19 months old, Moscow City. Began our journey November 1998. June 2006 - Welcome Home Adam! 3 years old, Moscow City. Began our journey November 2005.
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05-27-2006, 07:47 PM
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I am also familiar with this ranch via a presentation at the recent JCICS conference, and found it very very interesting. The facility is specialized to accept troubled children who have been adopted from Russia, and can transition some of the older children (14-15-ish) into the state's job corps program at age 16... please do take a look at the info that was PMed to you and see if that may be a good option.
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05-28-2006, 05:16 PM
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All the best to all of you...you are doing what is best for all...God bless you!
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Proud Mommy to two...who have taught me I can not change their pasts but I can change me and the way I parent them~ *Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~Now 8 and a 'Tween', and in 3rd grade. She's all girl!!!  *Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 6, in Kindy and such a sweet, silly & special boy!  'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.' ~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts
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06-01-2006, 12:14 PM
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Saw this late but just wanted to say that I will keep you and your children in my thoughts and prayers that things ultimately work out for their best possible care in the future, and that you are all able to find some peace about what would be the best situation for all concerned. So very sorry for this heartbreaking situation.
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06-01-2006, 12:43 PM
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I am praying for you and your family - wishing you all the best.
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Amy Andrew Bio son age 8 App to agency 2/2005 Homestudy complete 5/2005 Dossier to Russia 7/2005 October 2005 referral of 14 month old boy 11/19-11/25/05 trip 1 4/3/06 GOTCHA! Welcome home Nathan!
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06-02-2006, 03:45 PM
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My husband and I have been trying to get help, but there just doesn't seem to be anything out there that is screaming out as the best decision.
In fact, we can't even talk about it anymore. It is like we are floating around in a fog. How can anyone make this decision? There are so many "What ifs." I think the hardest thing for me is to get over my selfishness. How can I get over the guilt of giving up on them? How can they ever recover from another set of parents (especially ones who have told them that we will be there forever) failing them? How will I ever deal with my children's success with another family (feelings of failure and rejection)? Why did this have to be so hard? When we adopted we thought it would be forever. We told them it would be. They will never learn to trust after this. I am so confused, sad, and STRESSED!!!
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06-02-2006, 05:43 PM
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As a mom to twins myself, I just can't imagine where your heart must be at right now. For 6 years they have been your children. I get the feeling you have tried everything under the sun. If I remember from you previous post, you daughter was doing better when your son was away. Is there any way you can maybe find some sort of boarding school for your son, and keep you daughter at home (working on her issues) without giving them both up completely? I do not have any words of advice to offer, but please know my prayers are with your family.
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06-02-2006, 09:08 PM
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My heart goes out to you. I wish I had some advice to give you.
One thing I know is that you shouldn't be doing this alone without professional help. I hope you fine someone to help you during this difficult time to make the best decision for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Elissa June 1999 - Welcome Home Josh! 19 months old, Moscow City. Began our journey November 1998. June 2006 - Welcome Home Adam! 3 years old, Moscow City. Began our journey November 2005.
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06-03-2006, 08:42 AM
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I know enough of your background to know you've tried everything possible.
Naturally, you are going to feel emotional about this. This is probably not a decision you can govern with your heart. If you are going to disrupt or explore other options, you must focus on the rational/cognitive side here. It's likely the only way you can make the decisions you need to make in order to move on. I sent you a PM the other day with an excellent listserv for RAD parents. I STRONGLY urge you to get on this list and post your situation. There are parents who can help you with this there. Mike
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#26
06-03-2006, 09:44 AM
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With summer coming up is there a camp you can send both to, maybe even separate camps. Take 1-2 months to clear your head. Focus on your self and your marriage for a little bit.
I would agree with Mike, this has to be a rational/cognitive decision. Take a step back and see it clearly. It may take a month, two or longer.
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06-03-2006, 08:14 PM
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I don't have any advice, but please know that your family is in my prayers.
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#28
06-04-2006, 06:05 PM
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I’ve deleted a reply and two responses made to that reply. Folks, if you can’t share your feelings without registering for a new name to hide behind, you will end up getting BOTH accounts banned!
“Troothseeker’ is a troll - Alter ego: candace2006
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