[Princess Purr]

This morning Rich and I relized maybe we should consider adopting a boy, I mean a boy would be just as great as a girl! I think I have read that Russia does not do circumcisions, is this the case? For those of you that adopted boys did you have them circumcised/at what age? Again, I know this is a touchy subject, but if we do adopt a boy this is something that we are going to have to think about.

[papedge]

Emery was not done @ time of adoption he was 15months we had it done @ 20months due to he was sick with a cold ( upper respatory) so doctor advised we should hold off for a while.....

[ncdoppler]

We are not going to have it done to Maddox. We were all for it and we talked with our pediatrician and he explained some of the pros and cons, to us there were many more cons, and the pros weren't good enough! Our ped didn't advise it! Just our personal decision!

Nichole

[toria]

We feel as if we were made with all our parts for a reason therefore we did not circumcise our son.

[NancyZ]

We had Tim circumcised at around 23 months. We thought long and hard about it. I leaned towards it and DH (who is from Canada and NOT circumcised) was against it. Our pediatrician (who is an old family friend and implied that he would do it because at least 95% of all of the little boys he saw were circumcised) recommended that we do it before age two and suggested tjat we should talk to the urologist.

The urologist said that the pain/discomfort would be gone within 2 days (and it was really gone with in about 1 day). He said that he often had teenagers and young adults come to see him requesting to have it done but he never heard from people wishing they hadn't had it done. He stressed that it really isn't a cleanliness issue....that is natural.....it is more of a fitting in and cultural issue. We decided that there were enough other things Tim would have to 'fit into"...why add to those trials.

The funny thing is, once we decided to go ahead with it (after DH understood that it wasn't really going to hurt), that's when I started to have second thoughts!!! I've never looked back though, and am SO glad we had it done. Absolutely no regrets....and all in all, it was a breeze. A very minor surgery.

We will have our next little boy circumcised too. I'm all for indiviuality but I hate to even think about them having to be 1 out of 100 that are different. When I met my husband he was the only non-cicumcised fellow I had ever "known" and I was almost 40 years old!! Ultimately, it's a personal decision...do what feels right to you.

Whatever you decide will be the right thing. Good luck!

Nancy

[auburn]

Our son was just circumcised in February of this year....he was 21 months old and home about 9 months from St. Pete. I was SO nervous about the surgery, but it ended up being very quick and easy. My son had completely healed after 3-4 weeks.

Like everyone else has mentioned, it is such a personal decision.

[mj77]

Our oldest was circ'd at 18 mo. I am glad we did as he was having some medical issues. I have a friend that was opposed to it until her son started having the same issues too.

It was so sad though after my boy was circ'd. He was stitched and swollen . It amazed me how resiliant he was though. The next day, he was ready to play again. I talked to some other moms that had to have their boys circ'd older for medical reasons and they shared how surprised they were with thier boys' recoveries too--though some took a couple days to feel themselves again.

[leeinmemphis]

we adopted two little boys (3.5 and 4 years old) in 2004. We are leaving them as they are.... its a little "different" than "the norm" probably but i have read a lot recently and the trend in the US is still overwhelmingly to circumcize but its becoming more of a choice and not "automatic" like it has been for years.

alli

[waxhawfamily]

Our son was 26 months when we brought him home, and 28 months when we had him circumcised. We would have waited longer, but he would be starting preschool soon after and we wanted it behind us.

He did just fine with it. We were very pleased with the process, and the quick healing time. We had to be gentle at diaper changes and bath time for about 2 weeks, but otherwise, he ran around like normal - even the day of.

We are happy with our decision.

[kelleymac]

We did not choose to circumcize our son. It is an elective procedure and due to that, we elected not to do so.

There were no medical benefits to it that our ped could point out to us, and depending on which area of the country you live in, circumcision rates are falling fast. When our boys are older, I doubt that it will be 95% circumcised in many areas.

It's a very personal decision, so take all of the advice you get here and make the decision that's best for your son. It's just not a one-size-fits-all issue. (uhm, no pun intended...)

Kelley

[votemom]

lol kelley - good one!

yep, it's personal. and there is no "norm" anymore.

my two bio boys were circ'd. we made the decision to have the first boy done so he would look like his dad. even as a i type that, i realize that was not really a good reason.

then our second son we had it done because the first one had been done.

our referral is 7. we will not have it done. he will have enough to adjust to and cope with.

it is just not an important issue.

and now that my boys are 12 & 16, i can tell you that they are rarely, if ever, naked around each other. kids these days don't even shower in gym class anymore. so you don't even have the locker room issue.

follow your gut and listen to your hubby. (i mean, he's the one who has one so his thoughts will be a little more pertinent - ha!)

[Kasey]

We went back and forth about it before bringing Alek home and were leaning towards it, but the decision became out of hands when Alek was found to have had several infections prior to and on arriving home with a scar tissue issues involving his foreskin. So, surgery was a necessity. He had it done at 10 1/2 months in conjunction with tubes placed in his ears due to constant infections there. It went very well, for both procedures it took about 30 minutes. He was sleepy that night, a little crabby afterwards, cried for the first two diaper changes and that was it, the hardest part of recovery was keeping him off straddle toys for two weeks!
I agree with voteman as to listening to hubby too, I deferred to him on the subject, he deferred to me on the medical aspects. But above all, it is a personal decision, so don't worry about what anyone else thinks, go with what is right for you guys.

[VinSue99]

Our son was circumcised at 23 months. It went well, and within a few days, he was fine.....but continued to heal for about 2-3 weeks.

[Kendal]

We had our little boy done. He was 18mo at the time. I was really opposed to it. I saw to real reason for it, still don't. But in the end I went along because of my husband. He had very strong feelings about getting it done. The surgery was very minor. He was up and about in the same day. The nurse at the surgery center told me that I should be glad that we were doing now. She said that she see 4-5 boys a week that are teens getting it done. That really surprised me. It is totally a personal decision. I will say that I would be alot more hesitant to do it if the child we adopted was older (like 3,4 and up),

[Hoov]

Dillion is scheduled for surgery this Thurs., he is 21 mo. During his pre-op physical the dr. told me he thought we were making the right decision. He said they have done so many procedures on elderly men, 70+ for various reasons. To have the procedure or not was never really a question to us, we talked about it during the adoption process and we both agreed to have it done. From reading the posts over the last year regarding circumcisions, I haven't read of anyone having problems or wishing they hadn't done it. It is truly is up to each individual on what they want to do.