[bdaddy]

Does anyone else feel like reaccreditations are NEVER going to happen?

I have no hope left, I am completely lost and do not know what to do. Any suggestions?

I am stuck in this hellish limbo and I cannot take it anymore.

Why is this happening?

[maddensmom]

I don't have an answer for you. I so wish I could help fix this for so many of you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you though I know sometimes that is simply not enough... Please hold on. Each day brings you one day closer to holding your child. Just keep remembering that. One day at a time, that is all any of us can do.

[karenmarq]

I am curious, was there any rhyme or reason to the agencies that did get reaccredited recently. Did they DO something? Did the Russian government ever say anything about the ones that were added?

Russia is trying to reduce the number of foreign adoptions. Is "not reaccrediting" the way they decided to do it? Or did the agencies that are not reaccredited fail to provide adoption education or something with the post placements or...?

I guess this is logical thinking so I'm not sure if any of it applies.

A big HUG to you is all I can think of to offer support.

Karen

[lovestruck]

Bdaddy, I'm truly at a loss for what to say. I continue to pray daily for you, reaccreditation and all the other families and children waiting.......Feel sad, feel angry, but please please don't give up hope, your children need you too much to give up hope.

[amyfk]

Hi Bdaddy,

I can only imagine how much youre discouraged. Just know we're all thinking about you.

Maybe you and your wife have to take a step back for a week or two(or take a long weekend away from home) just for a change of scenery. I'm sure the stress has taken a rough toll on you all.

Then you should sit down and discuss where you want to go. Whatever decision you make for yourselves is the right one. Sometimes we know how long we can wait or deal with a situation, and sometimes we know where our breaking point limit is. As well as thinking about those children you have to think about yourself and your own health and well being as well. If you feel that you can still deal with the unknown, you may want to hang in there, if not, you may have to move on. Only you and your wife know what's best for you.

I hope you find peace and that you take care of yourself during this stressful time. We're all thinking of you.

Amy K, NJ

[toria]

I agree with everyone! Don't give up!!!!!! I can't imagine what you are going thru. For some unknown reason, that is what is going to get you to your child. Your child is waiting for you. It will happen. Some how, some way!!!!! It is crazy sometimes what life brings our way. What we have to go thru. But you will get thru it!!! Stay strong . Thinking of you and wishes i had some answers.

[toria]

sorry....WISHING i had answers

[LouLouBelle]

I'm sorry you are having a tough time. I wish I had some answers for you. Know that we're praying for all of you waiting for reaccreditation. Although I'm not in your shoes, the thing I keep telling myself is "it's not IF, but WHEN". I hope the "WHEN" comes soon!

[znd]

Bdaddy you have to hold onto HOPE that is the only thing that will get us through this.

Your children need you and you need them. stay strong one minute at a time.

Hugs,Hugs and more hugs.

Jennifer

[bdaddy]

Thank you for all your support. As every day passes, it continues to get more and more difficult.

[mikeintexas]

Hi Bdaddy -

I think of you about every day hoping and praying that reaccred will come through. I wish I had something useful to say that would alleviate everything, but I honestly am at a loss for words. I will just keeping thinking and praying for you guys.

I will agree with Jennifer (above)... hold onto to the hope and the dreams you have for being a family. Once this awful stuff finally gets resolved, you will have a lifetime of fun and treasured memories.

Mike

[angelkisses0102]

Prayers are being said every day specifically for you and your children...please do not give up on those kids...if you do, then those awful politicians in the Russian government are the only winners. I pray your children know that there IS someone who loves them and wants them so badly...may God grant them and you this...

[votemom]

i'm really sorry for everyone who continues to be in limbo. my friend just lost her job at an agency waiting for accredidation. they haven't been able to complete a russian adoption in almost a year so they can't pay their staff. the agency that did our home study can't afford what it costs to get accredited and they are shutting down completely by the end of '06.

so it's affecting so many people. most of all, though, it's the kids.

[waitinginnj]

There are not right words - just a bit of support and a place to vent the feelings.

I truly wish that you were not going through this difficult time.

[cathvash]

bdaddy,

I try to give you hope, but today is the darkest of days. It is so hard to have hope when these abuse cases keep coming up, and then get blown out of proportion in the sensationalism of the Russian press. I wish someone there would have the courage to print the other side of the story...About the 99.9% of happy families created here. Guess it's too easy to hate us because of our citizenship...The feeding frenzy feels almost gleeful. And the kids...crying here...

All I can offer is a hope that tomorrow will look better. That Spring is coming and the frozen river is in fact melting and moving towards the sea. Maybe today is just another cold front. Let's just get through it the best way we can.