[nungesser]

Compliments of Shay, I'm pleased to offer a new poll.

What was your primary reason for deciding to adopt?

[pwnort64]

There should be a category for singles.

I chose to adopt as it was the best option for me as a single woman to become a mother.

[Shay]

Thanks Nungesser for the poll!!

[doozer22boys]

Infertility was not a problem, but it was more than that. It was a calling from God....a dream given to us by Him.

[trnews71]

We were diagnose with some possible infertility problems then we got blesses with our DD. Even before we got married I always wanted to adopt.

[RainyInGA]

We had our two bio boys and thought we were done ( even though secretly I always wanted more!) Our lives were busy & full.. my career had taken off in amazing ways, so we built our dream house traveled and life was good. One day, my DH says 'hey did you still want more kids??" I was 44 at the time. I was speechless (for the first time in history) then I said COME HERE SO I CAN HIT YOU!!!!!
we got pregnant immediatley but lost the baby. we then became certified foster parents. But giving them back soon became too agonizing. Clients of mine had adopted many kids from Russia so we were referred by folks at church to our agency.So here we are on the adventure of a life time! One I could have NEVER predicted in a million years!!!

[proudmommyof 2]

My SIL and my mom are adopted, and we always knew we wanted to adopt. We thought we'd have 2 bio kids, then adopt 2. We only TTC about 1-1 1/2 years before looking into adoption, figuring we may or may not get pgn.


Instead of 2 bio, then adopt 2, we've have 2 adopted, and are looking to adopt more. It's what was meant to be, and you'll never hear me complain!! :-)

[2Bulgarianbeauties]

Single mom - wanting kids!

Kay

[Jim_in_PA]

"Other"

You could say that infertility might play a roll, as for medical reasons, it was unlikely I could be a parent the "traditional way". (and did not with my previous spouse) That really became a moot point once I was in my 40s and remarried to someone of similar (although slightly younger ) age. Adoption was the responsible way to build a family and that's what we chose to do once it became obvious that family building was in the cards. The same basic reason contributed to eschewing any thought of adopting an infant...

[Ktates]

I always wanted to adopt (as well as bio) - I never got why people did the IVF thing and didn't adopt - IVF just seemed so heartbreaking - of course I had no idea how expensive it was or how heartbreaking the process could be! Wish it was easier on both counts!

[emjay]

My DH and I married "later" than most of our friends and family. We had talked about having children both biologically and through adoption. We were blessed with one bio daughter, now almost 5, and then infertility issues arose, with various treatments along the way. We never went as far as IVF - just decided it was time to adopt - and now we have been blessed with our son.

- Maura

[waitinginnj]

I didn't necessarily know that a child needed to part of my family, but after the death of fiance several years ago I knew that I wasn't supposed to be alone either.

The new personal relationships never amounted to anything permanent and I considered adoption off and on. I had this mental note that "when I was 40".

Well, at 38, I was like why do I have to wait until 40 to have more joy in my life? My life was getting way to focused on work - so I announced on Christmas Eve 2002 that there would be a new family member by Christmas 2003.

[lippylulu]

Infertility. Went through the gamut of treatments due to recurrent miscarriages, including an experiemental blood transfusion because my own antibodies kept attacking ther pregnancies. Honestly, we didn't even consider adoption until we were done grieving the loss of not having a bio baby. A month after my final in vitro and miscarriage, I got tired of going to bed wailing and crying that there would never be a child in my life. It was only then that we began thinking about adoption. We thoght we wnated to adopt an infant at first, but God had other plans for us. Now that we are home with our 8 year old daughter, I never miss being pregnant or having a baby. My daughter IS my baby,she's just sort of big!

[lovestruck]

I always knew from a young age I wanted to adopt, but I wanted bio kids too. While facing numerous miscarriage before our older son's "stuck" we knew adoption was an option. After more miscarriages we decided to start the paperwork when another pregnancy "stuck". My husband had a vasectomy because I had been pregnant too many times. One night my husband and I were talking and I said what about that baby were going to adopt IF....nothing else needed to be said, except deciding boy or girl, which to me was really hard. We left the decision to the boys, they both decided they needed a sister since they already have brothers. Next we did some homework on an agency, signed on and here we are!

[drazil65]

"Other", as this is a 2nd marriage for both DH and myself and we were sure we both wanted to have a family (neither of us had children from our 1st marriages) we were married in 2003 and in the spring of 2004 started the process. We just knew that Russia was where our son was and we just went with it. I have always known that I did not need to be pregnant and give birth to be a mom (so when we made the decision to start our family we did not make this our focus, we just wanted to become parents), the mom part comes after the birthing process so my focus has been on being the best possible mom I could be, this is the most important part and where I have spent my energy. We could not be happier with our son and our decision to adopt, we have found great peace and contentment with being a family.