[Sally26]

Last night and this moring my sweet angle wasn't so sweet. She did things she knew she shouldn't, didn't want to do what I wanted her to do (take her clothes off to get in the tub, get in the tub, get wet...not just tub issues). When I talked to her and said, Mommy is sweet to you, you be sweet to Mommy she would come around. Last week she spent two nights with Grandma who gave her undivided attention. When she came home she had fallen asleep in the car, she initially came to me then wanted to go right back to Grandma, didn't go to her Daddy, finally came to me, but cried for Grandma (not long). Mon. night I got sick, so she had limited exposure to me Tuesday. Last night she interacted very well with Dad, but if I was around she wasn't as cooperative. Is she becoming a Daddy's girl? Was two nights with Grandma, too much? Some how I feel Grandma spoiling her when she has her undermines attachment. Is this a crazy notion? Or is all this just not enough time with me and she's punishing me? Terrible twos?? She turns two Tuesday.
Help all you experts

[angelkisses0102]

Welcome to the wonderful and wacky world of the terrible two's! If there have been no previous issues, I would venture a guess that it is not attachment related but a bit of the 'spoiled by the grandparent' bug. Our kids get this every time grandparents visit!

[Vicki H]

Sally,

Alex has and still does these things. The terrible two's ! Wish I could sugar coat it for you, but I can't. Alex has serious fits if he doesn't get his own way, he yells when it is time to leave my parents, sisters etc.

When I had my surgery even though Alex was happy to have me home, he wanted Daddy. Daddy was home with him for the two days I was in the hospital. Since I have been home with Alex for weeks, he now yells at my dh that he wants mommy to do things for him.

It's a phase, this too shall pass. With my Alex I am hoping it passes by the time he goes to high school....LOL

Vicki

[april*rain]

Sounds like the terrible two's. Ethan has jumped right into them and sometimes it's like watching Linda Blair and the Exorcist

[jmchowat]

Ben was absolutely fine until he was about a month away from his third birthday, then it was like he realized he'd almost missed out on the "terrible twos". Believe me, he made up for lost time!!!!

He also doesn't do well for a while after he's been somewhere where he gets his own way more than at home.

This too shall pass......

[GCS]

Sounds like terrible twos, but maybe she's coming down with something. I have to say that when my oldest is the worst, he usually gets sick right afterwards - a bad cold or flu bug. Sophia is only 17 months but I notice that even with her, the day or two before she gets sick she is crabby and tempering. Like they've got the bug coming and are feeling it.
It took me a few times to put it together. Just a thought.

Christina

[Sally26]

Thanks for all of your posts. I think you are all right that its terrible twos and what to expect after having gotten her way and every whim catered to for 48 hours. We visited Grandma today and while I was not important for a while, she wanted me when she had fallen down and was getting sleepy.

A couple of months ago we had gone to a family function and she responded attachment wise like she should. I finally felt like we had arrived, not that we had a tough time with attachment, but we weren't taking for granted that if we weren't diligent there could be problems. Her behavior this week made me think that I shouldn't have let her stay two nights with Grandma and that although her attachment is good, I would still have to avoid certain things. It's good to know that she is attached. I'm just afraid that circumstances could distrupt it. Attachment is just too important to take for granted.

[trnews71]

Yup...definitly terrible 2's!! It is now so "fun" at home DD has this thing going to where she really do not want to listen or do as she is told.

[Shay]

Well I haven't hit the terrible 2's yet although I feel like we have sometimes, Daria just seems to have a case known as Spoilitis...anyone else ever heard of it....