[Shay]

When deciding on a name for your child, what is most important to you?

1) The name reflects his/her cultural background.
2) The name is one that I've liked for a long time.
3) The name signifies a new beginning with his/her adoption.
4) The name that "fits" my child perfectly.
5) you wanted to incorporate a family name
6) had to be something we both agreed on

[spaypets]

How about
5) It's one that DH and I both agreed on.

Followed closely by
6) It honored a member of our family.

[Shay]

Originally Posted by spaypets

How about
5) It's one that DH and I both agreed on.

Followed closely by
6) It honored a member of our family.

...thanks for the other responses, do you mind if I add them?

[spaypets]

Please do!

[Kasey]

Well we had a name picked out because it was the only one DH and I agreed on and we planned on keeping his Russian name as a middle name, we did want to honor a family member, but didn't want to give him 3 names.
Well our referral came and we loved his name and the spelling, so we kept it (Aleksandr) and then gave him my grandparents last name as a middle name--so the best laid plans.....
I am glad it worked the way it did, Alek was nevera name DH and I even discussed!

[SingleMama2B]

Hi Shay....

Being that I adopted an older child, I did NOT want any additional stress on her, AND I love her name "Anya". So, #1 is appropriate for me.

I also wanted her to have a 'new' family legacy, so I gave her my Dear Sweet Grandmother's name as her middle name on her BC. So, that would be #5

An acquantance of mine adopted her daughter when she was 6.5 years old.... She actually changed her name, which I never quite understood. It's like she wanted to "erase" her past. Oh, I might add that this little girls given name was a BEAUTIFUL name!

[JackandJane]

Jordan was a name we both liked and it starts with a J like our names. August(his 1st middle name) has 2 reasons, the 1st he was born in August and August was Jane's dad's middle name and her grandpas 1st name. Janes dad died before he got to meet Jordan. Sergei(his 2nd middle name) was his name in Russia.

[momm2be]

1) The name reflects his/her cultural background.
2) The name is one that I've liked for a long time.
3) The name signifies a new beginning with his/her adoption.
4) The name that "fits" my child perfectly.
5) you wanted to incorporate a family name

I was so lucky! My daughters formal name was one of my top picks for a little girl. Here middle name is a family name,
I tell her she has links to both of her pasts through her name - her biological past and her adopted past.
And by the way --- it is just the perfect name for her.

[gnealey]

Hi everyone I am new to this. I was wondering if you could share your experiences with me reguarding anything that you have experienced. We are in the process of adopting. We are interested in an 11 yr old girl. We have 3 sons biological. BUt know this is what we need to do. LOve someone else that does not feel that love.


We are open to hear what ever you have to let us know what to expect would be great.

Gail

[votemom]

with my three (bio) children, it was just names we liked.

with our referral, this process has MEANT so much that we carefully chose his middle name based on HIM and HIS JOURNEY and HIS FUTURE.

it makes me cry.

[Schnooks]

well, if our referral becomes our son, I don’t think I can change is russian name as it is the same as my Dad’s!

[drazil65]

Incorporated family name(s) to honor him as part of our family, the names now belong to him and our families could not be happier . Also, it just happens to fit him!!!!

[mikiment]

OK, let's see how this works:

1) The name reflects his/her cultural background.

Yes, because we kept their Russian names for their middle names.

2) The name is one that I've liked for a long time.

True of both their first names.

3) The name signifies a new beginning with his/her adoption.

Yes, their first names did help signify a "new beginning."

4) The name that "fits" my child perfectly.

Both first and middle names seem to fit each child perfectly, and versions of both names are common in Russian and Greek (DH is Greek).

5) you wanted to incorporate a family name

This was true of the name Christopher. It was my husband's father's name, and my husband's middle name, so it was cool to pass that on as that's definitely a Greek thing. The name Alexandra (as well as Alexander) is also very common in my husband's family. (Anybody see "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," where every other person in the "introducing the family scene" was named Nick, Nikko, Nicholas, Nikoli -- there ya go! )

6) had to be something we both agreed on

We agreed completely -- which was both a shock, and a wonderful surprise!

This was fun, thanks, Shay!

[pwnort64]

I couldn't pick just one. Below are the choices that influenced the final name my son received at adoption:

2) The name is one that I've liked for a long time.
4) The name that "fits" my child perfectly.
1) The name reflects his/her cultural background.
5) you wanted to incorporate a family name


2. I've loved the name Henry since my sister-in-law had her middle child (10 years old now) and wanted her to use it...since she didn't, I felt it was fair game
4. I had narrowed it down to two choices and decided I would pick the one that seemed to match the child better.
1. I kept his Russian given name as his first middle name.
5. I added my dad's name as a second middle name.

Resulting in: Henry Roman David

Or, if he had been darker complected (#4), he would have been: Fraser Everett Roman (Everett being my Dad's middle name)

[tchr_678]

I have to say all of the above reasons. While my boys aren't home yet, we have chosen their names.

The youngest will keep his Russian name as a middle name. But his first name, Connor, is one DH and I had chosen long before our little one came into the picture. With have a VERY odd last name, and not many names fit well ... We love the name Connor, though, and it definitely fits him.

Our oldest (4) will also have his Russian name as his middle name, although we will call him by this name. At the age of 4, he knows his name and we didn't want to change it on him. But, his first name, Craig, is my father's name, so obviously it has quite a bit of meaning to us.

We gave them both first names WE chose, because WE wanted to give them something as meaningful as names. However, we did not want to take away what their mother had given them.

We are very happy with their names and CANNOT wait to call be able to call them by their names on a daily basis!! Only 2.5 more weeks!!!