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Originally Posted By Jess

If you read other posts in the Foster and Foster-Adopt areas, you will see how indifferent and even damaging our system is here in the USA. The welfare of children is not always important in the system, as it should be. Yes, we need to change our system here; but why condemn someone for wanting to care for a child from another country. It is better to admit to yourself that you would prefer a child who looks like you than to take in a child with whom you might not connect. (Studies show that we are more likely to choose spouses who look like us, why not children.) As for adopting children of a different race or ethnic background, there are people who are moved to do so. Personally, I know I could love and raise a child of any race; but I also know that I could only do so if I knew that I was the RIGHT parent for the child and the child's racial/ethnic identity would not suffer tremendously. Let's uplift one another not condemn.

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Originally Posted By Karen

I agree completely - I don't know much about foster care, but I do know that a child does not deserve to be in an institution such as an orphanage - that is one reason why I am considering international adoption. I also may be naive, but I can't help but think that as a Caucasian, I am not the best parent for an African-American or Hispanic child.