[ddahl]

Just stopping by to say good bye for a while. I have been off the forum for a couple of weeks while I was opening my new business and I think its best for me not to be here now. Things are going so well in my personal and professional life with the exception of the adoption. I have again been told my agency is receiving referrals and that none will come off the registry until fall. When is fall anyway? Yes I know but its rather ambiguous at best.
I do think its wonderful that many of you are getting referrals so quickly, Some have even gotten referrals after sending in paperwork in 2005 and some of you in the 2005 paperwork group have even traveled.
For me though, I can no longer fathom what it is about our adoption that causes every road block known in the adoption world to be thrown up in front of us. Its not a case of the poor me's I am dealing with. I do not feel bad for myself, I feel over it.
I am eternally grateful for all of the support you have given us throughout the process. The million Pm's and the kind words and prayers have been so wonderful and so appreciated. I would only ask selfishly that those of you who have me on your prayer list to please keep me there, because while I do not feel bad for myself, I feel like I have reached a new all time low in my adoption spirit. I am hoping that some time away with prayer and meditation I will be able to find the me I once was before this process began. A million thank to all of you ...hope to be back in the future! Kindest regards, Dixie

[mikeintexas]

Oh Dixie,

You have been in my prayers since we last communicated. I will continue to lift you and your family up in hopes that all the uncertainties can soon be answered and that a child will soon be brought into your life. I certainly understand the need for a break from the forum. Please please let us know how you are sometime down the road.

Stay strong. Stand firm in your faith.

Until next time...
Mike

[ahnasmom]

Dixie-

I will continue pray for you and your adoption. When you are ready...you know how to contact me...I will give you your space for now.

Enjoy your other successes and I know your adoption will eventually be a success....just don't give up girl!!

(((HUGS))) and prayers!

[votemom]

I am truly sorry.

[melcas]

Hey Dix,

Please get in touch if you want. I'm here for you if you just want to talk.

I'll pray for both us, little mama 2B! (You will be!)

Mel

[Vicki H]

Dixie,

I am so sorry. I wish you the best with everything. We are here if you need us.


Vicki

[Pinkie]

It will happen Dixie.......Keep the faith and keep strong.

Looking forward to having you back soon and good luck with your new business.

[Ktates]

Hang in there Dixie - I was about the same amount of time into the process as you are now - we were told it would probably be another 4 months before we got a referral - (disheartening to hear but we knew our agency was conservative) - we got a referral about 2 weeks later...Best of luck with the new business - it will be good to put all your energy into that and give it a good boost before your child comes home!!!

[Military Momma]

dixie,

I completly understand about opening a new business and needing to devote your time there. Just know that we are ALWAYS here for you WHENEVER you need us! Please keep us posted on any progress. We will miss you!

Lisa

[GoCathy]

I think that it is great that you are taking a break. This process, as bad as it is particularly now, can make us forget all the wonderful things we do have in our lives. If you can leave this for a while and then if you want, come back when the process is smoother.
Another thought: I have a friend who tried to adopt from Russia a few years ago and for some reason everything went wrong. 8 months ago she felt ready to try again, but she opted for China because the process is quicker and smoother right now. She gave up her dream of a Caucasian child because she realized she wanted to be a mother - that was important, not the race of the child. Well, she now has her referral process of her GORGEOUS daughter whom she is picking up next month. One trip. No updates after her dossier submitted. And she wouldn't trade her referral for any other child of any race. Now, leave the world of adoption but if and when you decide to try again, see which countries have smooth processes and perhaps things will go easier for you. God bless whatever your choice.

[tbristow]

Dixie,

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope they're wrong. I'd been wondering how things were going for you. You will be in our prayers.

[karenmarq]

Hi, Dixie,
My husband and I are at about the same timing as you. Homestudy started in 3/2004, all paperwork in 7/2004.

The nine month time was the hardest for me and after that I got to something beyond the "longing."

Life has thrown us some financial and health curves in the meantime so our focus has been on that. Plus, we've just had the greatest time having fun together.

We haven't given up, but our agency doesn't seem to have any clue when things might get moving again.

I waited 13 years for my honey to come into my life, so I guess waiting awhile for a little one is ok, too.

Best wishes,
Karen