[HollyB]

If we don't complete this adoption soon I may not fit into any of my clothes anymore. I have lost all ambition to get to the gym. I'd rather sit with a coffee and donut in front of this dang computer and torture myself by focusing every waking moment on this adoption (or lack of it). Any tricks for breaking this habit? I've gained nearly 20 pounds during this whole process. Just one more thing to get down about. I've got to pick myself up and get motivated. And I will! Tomorrow.
Holly

[proudmommyof 2]

My weight gain was when I took the fertility pills, which was 30 pounds. Hopefully, you are seeing enough here to help you relax and leave the computer for a few minutes. Although, here I am, still checking every chance I get.

Get used to not getting to the gym. Those days are over. You'll get your exercise by chasing around a todddler, and believe me, you won't sit down while that child is awake. Try to eat healty (again, easier said than done. I reach for the comfort food while I check my computer.) And remember, your little one doesn't care about the size of your waistline, but the feel of your hugs. The weight will come off when you feel more secure!!

[erickk]

I did not gain weight during our 1st adoption-I think it was nervous stress. But I did gain 10 pounds after we got home-even chasing a toddler. It was not until just recently that I got back to the gym-2 1/2 years later because he did not like going to the child-care the gym provided.

Cut yourself a little slack. I think most of us do unhealthy things when under stress. Here's something to try. I did it when I did not have time to go to the gym and it did help lose a few pounds and got me back in shape. I got one of those exercise balls and a book to go with it. It's cheap and you can do it at home--and it is very relaxing, unlike pounding away on a bike or stairmaster at the gym Just a thought.

[misshawna]

I think it is common to gain weight during this process! I have heard from other friends that they went through the same thing. Over the last 2 1/2 years of fertility treatments and adoption stress I too have gained about 30 pounds. I am just now getting my eating back under control. I have never been an exerciser so I can't use this as an excuse for that. I try to remind myself that most moms gain about 30 pounds (or more) with a pregnancy, so we are just normal moms! Just take it one day at a time. You have a lot going on with the adoption and that comes first. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Shawna

[mellieollie]

After the whole infertility thing and now this waiting... I looked in the mirror and had a breakdown. Then I immediatly called my local weight loss center and started a program. I couldn't go one more day numbing myself with whatever I could get my hands on. I'm down 4 lbs and feeling very good. Now, I just need to get on that treadmill! The biggest motivator is wanting to keep up with my kids when they get here, and to develop healthy eating habits for them. Also, I want them to think their mom is cute, rather than a little barrel. LOL

[ddahl]

Pigging out in Boca as well. I'd say I might be the largest gainer of the heard at a whopping 35 pounds. Please...even the carbs fear my approach! Well DH likes me just fine so I am maintaing my paper pregnancy weight until the end. I am also however paying the $68 dollars to a gym that I belong to. Its funny, I work with a guy who goes to the same Gym. He must be sympathetically eating for us too as he is not going anymore. I do drive by some times and waive....I just can't choose to go right now. Maybe next week.

[HollyB]

I belong to our local Y and pay that monthly fee. why?! For some odd reason, in my confused mind I think once the kids are here, my life will settle in and I'll get back in the routine. What makes me think I'll have the time then!
I would also like to present my kids with a cute little mom. Well, at 5'10" I'll never be little, but maybe I could be cute. I want Oprah to do a whole makeover on me. My hair is totally outgrown its style and my clothes are a mess. I'm wearing orange corduroys right now with paint stains. I was painting my future daughters room today. okay, back to work!
Holly

[stephw3boys]

Back in Dec I challendged myself to walk on the treadmill at least 2 miles every day until I got my referral.. I walked all but out of 27 days (I was skiing) till we heard about our dd. I will probably take up my challenge again after 1 st trip till I bring her home. It is not too late to start your own challenges!! And it could be anything - till you get the dossier done, till you travel, whatever. But make it doable of course. BTW, I am down about 6 pds, and 6 more to go. I am hoping to lose weight when I travel too!!

[Kendal]

Holly I feel your pain. I just got off the phone with the Chinese food place. Nothing like crab rangoons to make you feel better. I just got some crappy new from my agency. We are not going to be able to get a court date until late april/early may for our little boy. So hopefully some comfort food and a bottle of wine will make me feel better. I am a member of our local Y as well and I have found that the combination of Kickboxing and yoga classes has really help my stress level (when I go)

[CarRanVA]

I am still trying to stick to my goal - lose 15 lbs before going on our first trip (no referral yet) - I lost 6 lbs and then gained back 2
It has been cold in Virginia and my treadmill went back into hibernation the last few weeks and the chocolate has been calling my name.
Unfortunately there is no cure for my blah's except my own self-motivation - I am hoping to get it back soon. Hopefully my referal will come so I can wake my treadmill up again! In the meantime.....Peanut M&M's sound good!

[ARTEMAS]

Mellieollie,
I did the same thing. Looked in the mirror and really hated it. I started the treadmill today. Did 2 miles
I want to be able to keep up with my daughter when I get her. Saturday I turn 41, so it is kind of hitting me.
Plus, yes it is nice to know that your kids think that you are cute.

[ready2adopt]

Please! I had to buy all new sizes for my "wardrobe"! I'm a mess! I totally crave all the bad stuff, too. If it's fried and swimming in ranch dressing, get outta the way! Yummy! Its the only real happiness I have right now! Red wine is helping at night, as well......

We'll all be healthier, physically AND mentally, once this whole process is over and we can finally settle into the life we've been longing for, for so long!!!! Until then, I'll do my best, but some days are better than others. I was doing well these last few weeks but then, something snapped and now, look out!

I say, let's eat! Screw the scale....



Shawn

[Kendal]

I actually took the batteries out of and hid my scale in the back of my closet! Is that a bad sign?

[HollyB]

The last time I weighed myself I was so disgusted I kicked it far underneath the vanity. I'll need I broom to get it back out. I just feel like if I could get a tiny bit of good news I'd get out of this funk. C'mon! Throw me a bone!

[Javalita]

I'm right there with you all - probably gained about 20 lbs. It is a problem! I have a closet full of clothes that I can't wear. I had to buy special pants to get me thru this, but not it seems like I may as well just go for it and declare this my new size. It is really difficult. I don't care and mope around a lot. I think it is just this whole process - it is tough!