[soapaddict69]

Has anyone else had exprience with finding out you had a half sibling after you were an adult? I found out a year and half ago that my mother gave up her first daughter at 17 and we have since met and I want to jump in with both feet because I'm thrilled I have an older sister but I don't want to interfere with her adoptive family.

[Rita77]

Thats great, I hope that you can have a wonderful relationship with her. You must be so excited. I'm sure that she doesn't mind you getting involved with her adoptive family, you're her real sister!

I too have half siblings, but I haven't gotten the opportunity to meet them yet. My mother and father have both passed away, so I hope to my mothers death certificate soon, so that I can find my 2 half sisters & 2 half brothers.

Congrats To You~
Christine

[laurajane]

Howdy,
I too have a half sibling, but I was the youngest and I was the one put up for adoption. I found all this out about a month ago. We have spoken many times, and she said her father told her once that her mom had had twins at one point, but she never pursued it. The way I see things is in this world is no one can have too many friends. I'm not pursuing my relationship with them as a family, but friendsship. Family might come in time once the dust settles, but my adopted family is the only family I have ever known, so for now they are my new friends, and we'll wait and see what happens.

[PaDa]

I found out a year and a half ago that I have a half brother and half sister~I would love to have a chance to meet them. Go to them if you have the chance-you may regret not doing so later.

[glbowman]

Hello,

I found out a year ago, when I made contact with my birth mother that I have three half-siblings. I have met them and they are already in a year very special to me. I am an adoptee and I have grown a really close relationship. At all times I keep my adoptive mum and dad involved and as a result they are fine about me seeing my birth family regularly. Good luck with your sister. I always wished I could have a sister - now I am very lucky because I have three!

All the best
Gillian

[Rita77]

I found my four siblings just this last march of 2003. My relationship with all of them is just wonderful! I wish you all the best of luck with your searches on finding your family, and don't give up hope!

God Bless~
Christine Brackett

Fourpinkandablue@cs.com

[Inez1955]

finding family has to be a wonderful feeling, I am helping a cousin find her siblings, possibly her birth parents, after so many years there is a chance they have passed by now, but she knows she has several siblings out there somewhere. Her adoptive parents have both passed away, her husband also passed away. Every step has hit a brick wall for her, knowing there is family out there that might be looking for her, I have decided to help put another ear or eye out there to try and get her reunited with her birth family, I know I would want to know where my baby sister was if she was taken away! I was just wondering how long your search was? Our search started out in NJ, no telling if everyone still lives there or not, but you have to start somewhere! i am glad you had a happy ending!

[dl]

originally posted by laurajane
The way I see things is in this world is no one can have too many friends. I'm not pursuing my relationship with them as a family, but friendsship. Family might come in time once the dust settles, but my adopted family is the only family I have ever known, so for now they are my new friends, and we'll wait and see what happens.

This is how my relationship with my bioDad and half-sister is progressing. To me, while biologically connected we are strangers getting to know each other and it will take time, just as it does in any relationship, for feelings to develop. If you approach it as a friendship and it grows into more you'll be happy. If you set your expectations to high ~ where you expect to much to soon ~ you might sabatoge the relationship. I would let your sister set the pace, on how much and when, she wants to involve her afamily in the relationship between the two of you.

Best of Luck!

[FatBirdy]

I am the adoptee whose 1/2 siblings just found out about me. I am the oldest and I would love it if any of my siblings felt like you do. However, everyone is different - just take cues from your sis.....if she seems guarded respect that. If she is welcoming...jump in with both feet.

Are you full or 1/2 sibs?

May I ask....how does your mother approach this new sister relationship? I am not too sure what my bmom says to her children (my half sibs) and I was just wondering! thx.

[heatherlynnc]

I am actually looking for my birth sister. Like you I was adopted and then found out that I had another full blood sister when I found my birth parenets. However, unlike me she was given up for adoption through a childrens home in Texas, as a result I dont know her name but I do know her birthday, childrens home name and her bith parents name. Do you know what the appropriate type of person is taht I need to hire PI and otherwise to find her? How did you find your sister?

[tlee70]

HI there

I have met 2 of siblings this past year. I feel like you do sometimes Soapaddict69 when it comes to jumping in with both feet, but I think fatbirdy is right in respecting each others cues.
I was excited about developing a relationship with my sibs as well, but I always have in the back of my mind that I am a stranger to them and like any stranger, it is their choice whether or not they want to become friends. I have found that with my sibs that it is better to just let them decide if they want contact, as they are young and come from a tight knit family.
I'm sure you will know from her cues whether she's interested. If she's not, than all you can do is hope that one day she will want to have a relationship.
I have a question for you though Soapaddict69. If your parents did not tell you (my bmother refuses to tell her daughter about me) how would you feel towards your parents and also your sib??


tlee