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Last week, my social worker mailed a letter to my birth parents, because we thought they were still married. Four days ago, my birth father called and spoke with my social worker. The social worker have some hopefully good news for me. The social worker did tell my birth father of my deafness. He was very surprised as no one else on either side of the family is deaf. The social worker also told him what she could about you from our intake interview. He was very glad to know that I am are okay and had a good life. He wanted me to ask you if your sons are deaf. It seems he is anxious to know all he can about me. He told the social worker that he had always thought about me and had thought about searching for me in the past but was afraid to disrupt my life. They are not together. They divorced a few years ago but have a good relationship. He told me that they have three sons. However they are not aware of your birth and adoption so he and my birth mother will have to figure out about how to handle this. He is trying to make contact with my birth mother. He will get back to social worker as soon as he can or have your birth mother call. The social worker will call or email as soon as she hear.

Now...I have to be prepare for being reject from my birth mother. Any advice for me to prepare rejection from my birth father or my birth mother? I'm a bit fear about it.

Thank you!

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Originally Posted By Carol Bird, Birthfamily Forum, Experts Group, adopting.org

Why on earth do you dwell on rejection?
Your birthfather clearly wants to know you. He and your birthmom are prepared to tell your brothers about you now. Sometimes in cases like this, they don't tell siblings until they are sure that they will reunite. They waited for you to make the move. If you hadn't, and they HAD told your siblings about you, there would be wasted anticipation and no closure at all. That's is probably why they didn't tell them before this.

Deafness is NOT something to be ashamed of. Many people are deaf or close to it, and continue to have a happy life. You must look at things more positively.

I'm taking the liberty of sending you some guidelines and articles that may help you through the early days of the reunion, and help you to prepare for your meeting with them.

In the meantime, say a few prayers for guidance, and stop being so negative! It will be OKAY!
Hugs, Carol