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Originally Posted By Bobbie

Hello,
I have a question regarding my three kids and adoption.
I divorced their father 5 years ago and I have primary
custody. He gets visitation every two weeks for the
weekend. I keep running into a problem with him regarding
money for what ever the kids need. I am lesbian, and
recently married in Vermont in March, even though Wisconsin
doesnt recognise it. I have been with Phyllis for over 4 years and with my heart problems my health has not been
very healthy. I would like to have Phyllis adopt my kids
so that one, they can be on her insurance and I dont need
to argue with my ex anymore, two incase I die I want my kids
to have the consistency they have always had with Phyllis & I
I want them to have so many things that there is not enough
room on here. My main concern is cutting out the middle man
meaning my ex... it would be my rights except for things like
visitation and such, I dont know if I can do it on contingency
that if I die but, I doubt it.Is there a way I can do the adoption with out him knowing... Does it change the child
support then as well? Thank you for taking the time to read
my questions.

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Originally Posted By Kathleen Silber

Yours is a compelling situation! In my opinion, your partner could not adopt your children unless your ex-husband legally relinquishes his rights to them. Since you state that he visits regularly, it seems unlikely that he would be willing to legally relinquish his parental rights. However, this is really a legal question, and the laws related to adoption also vary somewhat from state to state. So, I strongly encourage you to consult with an attorney in your own state about what is legally possible.

Regards,

Kathleen Silber