[mom2GRLC]

I also want to say how much I like the picture we took of my daughter with her birthmom and myself. It too helps me realize that for my daughter it doesn't have to be a choice of us or them....she can have both and love both equally without having to choose. She can love us for the very different but very important people we both are in her life. So it helps keep things in perspective for me as well.

[dtmom2b]

Thank you so much for sharing your story and feelings. I have had those same feelings before. Our DS birthfamilies had a BIG bday celebration for him in their home town. We traveled 3 hours to see them and celebrate. There were aunts, uncles, grandparents, great grandparents, cousins, I think there were 50 people total. There were pictures taken non-stop of our DS with everyone and yes I did feel funny but then realized how much our DS is loved and that can't be a bad thing!!

Thank you for saying:
I would not do it "for the birthmom" or "the birthfather" if you do it at all it should be for your son. Because then you will be able to deal with the emotions that will come along with it.

That is exactly what was happening, the more I think about it, it was more of a "don't forget what you have" picture, does that make sense? maybe even a subtle message that I don't understand between BMom and BDad (that are "on" again this week/month)

[lovemine77]

It makes me so happy to hear about all of the great relationships you all have with the BMom's, I am a BMom and wish someone had thought about taking a picture of me and my son when I was at the hospitol, I think that would have been wonderful for everyone. I didn't do an "Open Adoption" because I was told by my/their lawyer there was no such thing, just to sign the paper work. Although I do get pictures because it is my step mother's cousin, I wish I could have more. And I just found out recently he doesn't know he is adopted, which I thought he would know all along, anyways what ever his parents think is right for him I agree with. Sorry off subject, I just wanted to say I know the few pictures I have of my son are very special to me and I carry them around in my purse so he is with me everywhere I go.