[AMom2Two]

Thank you ((myheart))!


I did tell my dh about this thread and how EVERYONE (ok exaggerated that just a wee little bit ) thinks he should be the one to call. He asked why and I said, because it's a guy thing. He will probably be more comfortable talking to you. We don't know if his new wife is the jealous kind, know what I mean? I laughed and he rolled his eyes......

okay "fine" but I'm going to call him when I want to and not when you want me to. I said that is fine, as long as you do it within the week.

[munchkinwoman]

I think he knows the door is open if he wants visits.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Munchkin, I think that has all ready been stated.

[munchkinwoman]

i know its been stated but I get the feeling that the bio father is being pushed into something he doesnt want to do.

[SchmennaLeigh]

It really shouldn't matter what he wants or doesn't want to do. There are times that visits are excruciating (emotionally) for me with my daughter. Why do I go? Because it is in her best interest.

[munchkinwoman]

maybe this particular birthfather wants a closed adoption which is his right.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Originally Posted by amom2two

We meet when dd was 6 weeks old and decided to meet once a year at the agency picnic. We meet there for 3 years straight.

Seeing as how he made an agreement with Amom to have an open adoption with contact, it's a little too late to change his mind. While there is room for a break and time to sort out feelings in an open adoption, promises should be kept by all sides of the triad. Firstparents shouldn't be able to just "disappear," just the same as adoptive parent should not. Both sides of the adult triad should be held to the same standard.

[munchkinwoman]

Maybe this particular birth father can't handle the open adoption at this point in his life. He may of thought he could of handled it at first but now he may not be able to do it.