[Rainbow mom]

I need help deciding on a special goodbye gift for our newest Foster/Adoptive son to give his birthmom. First I should explain that no one in her family knows about him, nor do her friends or church family. So the gift I give her needs to be non-revealing about her parental status.

Some of the ideas I had where:

A birthstone necklace with his birthstone in it.
A locket with his picture and a piece of his hair.
Roses
A card with his footprints in it.

I really care about her and plan to keep in touch but I really wanted something special for her to remember him by.

[bandfan]

How very thoughtful of you! Any and all of your ideas sound fabulous to me. I just know your son's birthmom will treasure this gift. You are a special lady to think of this. Let me know what you finally decide on. Have a Great Day!!!! -Sheila-

[Rainbow mom]

Thanks but it is the very least I could do for the HUGE gift she has given me.

[emiliesfirstmom]

Could you perhaps get her something that reflects her interests? I started law school several weeks after placement, and my daughter's aparents bought me a beautiful hard-bound copy of the newest edition of Black's Law Dictionary.

Do you know her well enough to do something like that? That way the gift wouldn't be obviously related to the child. I also like your idea about the birthstone jewelry.

[kimmy30]

I like the idea of the birthstone necklas. I have an engraved locket from my daughters parents. I am abirthmother myself.
If she is not wanting to discuss withothers her situation the birhtstones jewelry would be better thatn a locket so she would not have to explain to anyone the importance.

I do love the first suggestion of maybe finding her interest and heloping her rebulid her life. As a birth mother I feel a great deal of appreciation for my daughters parents. I would not be where I am today had they not been there for me.