[blessedinont]

Hello, I am new here and am looking for some info, insight. DH and I have been married for 13 yrs, we have an 11 yr old DS and have suffered two m/c. It was a painful battle but I had truly believed that we were going to be the happy parents of one child. My sister came to us asking us to take her unborn child. She is just starting her 2nd trimester of her pregnancy. This will be her third child. She hasn't decided on this plan 100% but is leaning this way. I have asked her to not take me on this roller coaster, until she is more confident in her decision. I can't even beging to think if this is something my family can do before she is more ready to believe its for the best. She becomes more and more sure everyday, and I do believe its a possibility. Then what? I would like to hear all insight, especially from people who have continued through with a relative adoption. How does the family continue on? All of my family's children are older and would realize what has happenned, so it would be no secret.
Thanks

[AlexzandersMom]

I am actually on that path right now. My baby was born in January and I couldn't be happier. My sister gave the baby my last name right away and has always referred to herself as auntie. My sister has been great and the older kids have accepted their new role. My nieces and nephews understand that this is there cousin and not their brother (though biologically he is their brother).
My situation is probably very different than yours though. He was my sister's 5th child, she doesn't have custody of any of them (but did decide to adopt him to me when she was pregnant), she is working on getting her other kids back, and I have custody of the 3rd child and have since she was 9 months old, she is now 3.
All of her children live apart, the older 2 live with my parents, the 3rd with me, and the 4th with my brother. So my nieces and nephew are used to their brothers/sisters living apart from them.
This adoption hasn't changed things between my sister and I, I think mostly because she is used of her children being raised by other people.
I hope this has helped some.