[shae961]

As of yesterday this is what all happened. Social service came to my sisters house and took my nephew and gave him to his biodad. Loser that he is. NO food or anything for my nephew. They took him from my sisters house because J's mom was staying there. Well my sister packed her up and told her to get out. So where does she go right to his house. Ok now what makes it ok for her to be around J at his dads house rather then at his grma houses. That makes no sence to me. I am so pissed right now. My neice called my sister to see if they could come to the house and get some food for J. ARE U kidding me. Don't you think the social worker would have looked at that. HELLO you are giving him a 3 yrs My nephew is going to be so screwed up now. his dad beats my niece. and hits J all the time. I am off to call the state now....

[feelingreyt]

I sure hope your nephew is ok. My thoughts are with him.

[Hadley2]

No, it is not OK for the mother to be anywhere near the child if he was removed from her care. It is good you are calling CPS and/or the police asap if she is visiting him there or has moved in there.

Unless your local agency is really lax, no way social services will place the child with the grandmother if he was removed from her home. She may even get charged herself. If the father has let the mother in, ditto. This is a three-ring circus. If you want to be considered as a placement, you will have to convince social services that you are not a part of it and won't be.

Be prepared that if you do step up for placement, you may be saying good-bye to this part of your family. Your relationship with them will be changed, maybe gone. You will need to be able to set and keep boundaries, and you will no doubt be accused of being heartless, trying to steal the child, etc. It's not an easy road.

All that said, we took in our niece and will be adopting her soon. She is where she belongs and needs to be now. My thoughts, too, are with the little one and hoping he is safe and well cared for.