[kaykay4us]

Hello! I am new to this. I am currently having some problems with my sister in law. She is the birth mom to my two adopted children. My daughter came to us right after birth, due to birth moms drug use while pregnant. Our son a short time later, our son is older. We plan on letting our children know that they are adopted. We don't feel it will do us any good to keep it a secret. I love my children very much and want to keep them safe. Birth mom entered rehab out of spite to prolong the termination process on our daughter. When this backfired she graduated and went back to her old way of life. She did not show for the trial for our son. She just disappeared. Now she has decided that since all of the legal stuff is over that she wants to be back in their lives. Frankly I don't trust her. She still thinks that she has the right to parent these beautiful children. I feel that until she accepts that she is no longer the parent then she should have no contact with them at all. The adoptions were closed adoptions. She has made this a very difficult process. Our daughter does not even know who she is as she has not seen her since she was 5 months old. I just need some advice on how to help the birth mom understand that she has no more rights and until she can accept the guidelines we have put before her that she have no contact.