[feelingreyt]

I feel so torn. I'm hoping that some input from you wonderful people will help me know what to do. If there is anything I can do...
Monday night my dh went to pick up my ason's full bio sister who is 15 months old. She was going to go home yesterday, then today, now it will be tomorrow. To be honest, I just want to keep her. I just don't see how that is possible. The mom is my dh's cousin and she is currently staying with some drug addict that she has a long history with. He is the biodad of her 2 oldest children. Not the biodad of my a son or the sweet baby I am taking care of right now.
Here is my problem....I just don't want to see this baby go back into that situation. But there is nothing I can do. Or is there? I just want what is best for the children. Do I try to contact DCS? Do I just beg the mom to let me keep her dd? What about the other dd that she still has with her? So many questions, so little time to get all this resolved. I need advice and a lot of prayer.

[MamaS]

If you honestly feel that the baby would be in danger of abuse or neglect if she went home to mom and boyfriend, then you should call DCS. At the very least, they will go to the home and check on the baby. If then, or at any time in the future DCS should remove the baby, you can contact them as a relative and ask for relative placement.

[2manyks]

you can call dcfs, but probably not alot will happen. i would have a heart to heart with her mom and tell her you love her and would care for her whenever she needs you. try to be the good guy so when things are not going well she can count on you to be there for her little girl. we did this and now are aparents of 2 nephews.

[feelingreyt]

update:
I still have the little sweetie. She is doing really good. Her mom has moved her older sister in with someone else and is currently in rehab. Things are kinda hectic around here, but everyone is adjusting!

[2manyks]

good luck with the little one. things will calm down eventually. hopefuly everything will work out.

[Lynard1210]

I would keep children services out of it if at all possible. I would also keep being supportive of mom and then if mom needs you to parent long-term, i would ask her to sign over legal custody to you and your husband. It would be a real blessing for your adopted child to have a full sibling . . .as for the other child . . .it's hard to watch one child suffer when you know another one is protected. We are in the same boat. We have child no. 1 and we know no. 2 and no. 3 are suffering in a way no. 1 (who is with us) will not. You can't save the world, but I wish you all the best in supporting and/or parenting this child.

[feelingreyt]

Update.... We had the little girl in our home for 22 days. Her mother came and picked her up. I am told they are living with a friend. Her situation has not really improved at all, but there is little, if anything, I can do anymore.
I upset the grandmother by being honest with her, so I doubt we will hear anything more from them until they need something else. She sent her dd, the mom, to pick up the toddler the same day.
Being supportive to the mom and grandma means giving them money and doing whatever it is they ask of me. That is their idea of supportive. I'm tired ot it. I hate it for the girls, it breaks my heart, but I have to protect MY children. That may sound selfish to some, but my childrens needs and security is my uttmost concern.