[DCMomLady]

I'm going to agree with Spitzlvr about how wrong it is to try to adopt a child that you're hoping you won't be allowed to adopt. I'll just add this to her argument: What if they give you the child that you don't really want? Believe me, it could happen.


If you're going to offer yourselves as prospective adoptive parents, I think you need to be sure that you are ready, willing and able to love and raise this baby just like the one your wife is carrying. Otherwise, be honest with your wife's cousin about your reservations and don't let yourself be guilted into doing something that you believe is wrong for your family -- and disastrous for the unwanted adoptee!

DeeCee

[brianinsd]

In the meeting with child services last Tuesday, the case worker noted that we are not in contention for the child at this time. We did the fingerprinting anyways, but the chances are super slim. Proceedings began back in June and it's probably too late.

Another indicator why this is bad for us is that the birth mother, who contacted us about this first, has not contacted us since the meeting. If she was so interested in us adopting the child then she would have tried to find out what happened and that weighs heavily on us that if she doesn't care why should we raise her child when it is already in a good home.

I sincerely doubt that we will be taking the child from it's current home.