[DCMomLady]

Congratulations, hkolln. I am so happy for you. I hope you soon will be tucking your niece into her own bed at your house!

DeeCee

[Strmyhart01]

Hi everyone.. Please.. I would like share with everyone the news... My son Patrick.. my birthson, my baby and whom I was talking about in the previous thread... he is gone.. forever... He was tragically killed in a car accident. My adoptive family never called me.. I found out through his myspace page where his girlfriend and some of his friends wrote.. rest in peace... and other tearful memorials to my son. Thankfully I had found his page a good while back.. were I watched him and didn't interfer with his life.. even though I made many attempts for contact... My heart is shattered beyond words. My sister and her husband lied every year on their limitted guardianship... they told the court that I wanted no contact... that they had no knowledge of where I was... both false.. and I found out every lie they told him as his friends had shared with me everything... sorry if I am rambling.. but between a heart broken and shattered beyond words, the anger I feel towards them knows no bounds! They lied to the coroner's office, the police at the scene.. they told them that they were the parents.. to the funeral parlor.. they told them I was dead.. but they uncovered their lies... and I finally seen my precious boy... I kissed his sweet but severely broken cheek.... If I am not making sense right now.. please understand.. but family ties are beyond repair. For I will never forgive them for their lies...or for what they told my son... They not only lost their daughter, but they lost their grandson and grandaughters the day I said goodbye at the funeral home... He is now home with me..I finally got my baby back!
( I am not going to try to edit this.. as my heart can barely take just writing this...It has been 3 months since he has been gone.. and my life is shattered.
Sara

[Mared2chuck]

Strmy
I am so sorry for you. Please be safe now and know your son knows now how much you love him. I am crying for you as I type this. How could your family do this to you. I have siblings and would never ever do something so wrong to them... I am adopting my nephew. I did so at my brother and his girlfriends request. I am now and always will be open with them and my son (although he is still to young). The bmom has disappeared but I would NEVER say anything bad about her. I would NEVER want my son to think he was not wanted by his bmom. Please know what happened to you was WRONG and I don't believe relative adoptions are usually like that. God Bless you and take care of you in this time.

[Lynard1210]

DC Mom,
What a great story. I never knew the half of it . . but you have clearly been through a lot. I commend you for all your love and efforts for your daughter.

[Lynard1210]

Stormy,

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please private message me if you would like to talk one-on-one.

[DCMomLady]

Thanks, Lynn. Your compliments reached me on a day when I really needed a pat on the back.

DeeCee

[momof2many7]

we did a relative adoption, mom relapsed again, gave us the kids, then state showed up 2 days later to take them from us. we got foster care certified, mom signed over her rights a month later, and last week, almost 2 years later our adoption was finally finalized. she is going around trashing us, saying we stole her kids, because she thought she would still be mom and have complete access. we did what we said we would do which is keep them safe, and until she proves stable we wont allow more then her 2 visits a year (she can write or email everyday and send gifts, she's not once done it though) BUT we NEVER talk about her negatively infront of the kids, heck we never used to tell them when they were to have a visit in case she didnt show...we have now chosen to let them know what contact she can have, and when she doesnt show it's on her. the only things they have been told is she made bad choices and was unable to take care of them (they figured it was because she had no money to take care of them, and thats what their reason is if you were to ask them) i agree that you should never bad mouth the parents. the kids will make their own decisions on how they feel about them in time. im just hear to love and raise them. sorry i'm new here, just wanted to add my 2 cents=)

[p4disney]

Originally Posted by lpenley

i have questions and need help. i am taking care of my nieces baby and shes says dss took her for no reason and i need help i cant deal with niece or grandparents they are so ungrafel

if the child was taken, there was a reason, it takes a lot for a child to be removed from a parent (was a social worker doing that work for 10 years..)
Tell your niece to get you on a three way call and have her tell the social worker of the case that she gives you permission to speak to the social worker and know about the case. That will solve some of it. Ask your niece to see the case document reports. They are always provided a copy by the attorney of the childrens court during the process...
Is the child placed with you through DSS? Just follow the rules of the SW if it is. If the relatives do not like it, tell them that you have to follow the rules and if you dont the child could be removed (although it is very unlikely unless the child is at risk).

[Lynard1210]

DC, I love reading your posts. You really know how to tell a story. I know what you mean about the 37 cent stamp. Can totally relate. Rejection in what one hoped to be open is a tough pill to swallow. I'm in the same boat! Thanks for sharing your story.