[lmw0909]

We finalized the adoption of my husband's bio great niece and nephew in October. On Christmas day my sister in law (bgrandma) decided I was in appropriately discipling my adaughter. I asked her to sit down because she wouldn't eat her dinner. sis in law wanted to baby her. I told her she is not to be babied when in trouble. Everything then blew up! Yesterday she left my husban and I a note about us mentally abusing the children. I am a liar and a fake. I have never loved the children, etc.. I have given up my life for 2 years to take care of the children. I love them with all my heart. She said nothing is ever final and she will make sure of that. Is there anything besides trying to get us in trouble with the DHS? We have plenty of people who know we are not doing what she is accusing us of. She has some mental problems. I am at my last straw. She and her sister stress me out so much. Will it ever get better?

[numbr1dbcksfan]

Wow. Well, I doubt that telling your child to sit down and eat is going to cause much alarm!! Im sorry that you have to go through that... As far as I know, if an adoption is final...it is final! I hope that is the case!!

[coco46]

lmw-

So sorry you're faced with this.

Once the adoption is final, it's a done deal, as far as I know. It sounds to me like she's making empty threats, but to be on the safe side, I'd keep a log of every time you speak with her and she says those things, plus noting what actually happened. If she tries to get DCFS involved, that way you'll have a complete history of the true events without having to rely on your stressed-out memory. I'd also keep any notes she leaves or messages on your voice mail, etc.

If she has mental problems that are causing her to behave irrationally, people at DCFS can normally pick up on that pretty quick. Hopefully, all it will take is a couple of half-baked phone calls before she won't be taken seriously.

I wish I could be more helpful! All the best to you.

[daddyof12soon13]

tell the bio grandma how you discipline YOUR daughter is none of HER business,and if she doesnt behave,she wont be allowed to see the child anymore.dont let her bully you.you set the rules for yuor daughter,and it was inappropriate and out of line for her to say that you were inapproprieately discipling her,thats niot fir her to say when shes a guest in your house.