[Lynard1210]

Rosies42,

Hi, I'm new to the forum and my name is Lynn. I know I am a little late jumping on the band wagon, but I read your postings from earlier in the year and I want to commend you for adopting your grandson. I read of his health problems and I hope that he is doing better. You are a special, loving person to adopt your grandson. It sounds likes you still have a good relationship with your daughter, and the birthfather which is excellent! You are the only model I have these days as I am in a similar situation (more on that later).

First, I want to remind others that, and especially 2confused, that by legally adopting, YOU ARE THE MOTHER. It doesn't matter if you were the grandmother, or the next door neighbor, or a stranger, you are legally the mother and the psychological parent-no one can take that away from you (and many others will try!). Another thing I think people don't recognize is the time and money it takes to actually go through an adoption. To me, adoption means total commitment. Are our adoptive parents perfect? Not at all. Were our bio parents perfect? No. But I feel grateful that my birthmom decided to give me a better life since she didn't feel ready or able to parent me.

I feel badly for 2confused for being lied to. Honesty is definitely the best policy and being adopted myself, I am a basically happy person and I attribute that, in part, to being told the truth about my identity. I don't know my birth family, but I feel that God put me with my adoptive family for HIS reason and it's not for me to question.

Thank you for your postings.

Lynn