[sunnygal]

I'm married to a wonderful husband. I love him dearly.
We've been married for about 6 years.
I haven't been able to get pregnant. My husband has two children already. I do not have any children and my husband was my first marriage.

Do adoptees have problems dealing with these situations?

[jamijc]

I'm an adult adoptee, but never wanted children of my own. I have experience as a stepmom and part of a online support group for stepmothers, so I'm quite familiar with a lot of the concerns that arise from being a stepmother.

I think there are probably several things at play here -

- as an adoptee, you could be yearning to have a biological tie to another human - your own child

- as a stepmother, you've missed out on a lot of firsts - being his first wife, having his first child, and you are providing support to children who already have a mother. This is a very common issue with 2nd wives who are in the lives of children where you have certain responsibilities for their care and yet - often - no authority.

- or, simply, as a woman who wants a child and has not yet gotten pregnant, you are very frustrated.

You have several possible causes - I hope that you can find a solution that brings you happiness.