[mygrl4meee]

Adoptee's Do you have the desire to just meet your birth moms and birth dads and biosisters and brothers or do you feel the need to know extended family? Like grandparents and aunts and uncles, and cousins. I am just wondering. Thanks for sharing.

[txrnr]

I'm still deciding what I want to do, but I wouldn't even say I have an interest in biosibs. In fact, the idea that I may disrupt a siblings life is high on my list of why not to search.

Since I have no idea what I'd find in my birthparents, I'd rather stick with them to start with if I searched. That's just me though. I'm sure there are others who would love the whole big family reunion thing.

[lafayette87]

Before I found out what I have, I have always just been interested in the females, My birthmother and birthsisters, up until I found out more this summer. Now I want to know everything I can. I don't have to meet them, I just want to know little things, like what they were like. I found out the truth this summer, my sister's weren't with my first mom. They were born, and relinquished after my birth. I'm so angry about this, because my first mom gave up all of her daughters, and kept only her sons.

I always thought my sister's were older, but they are still minors.I don't know if I will ever be able to find them, or if they would even care to know me. I always felt so horrible, I wondered what she said to my older siblings as to why I was gone, but it wasn't my sisters she had to tell that too, it was my brother. I was so deeply invested in that question that I had to know him, but now that I found him, I can't - he died.

I'm afraid of reuniting because I worry my younger brother and his father, how they will take it. I don't know what they know, and I'm afraid of breaking up something good. I don't want to create trouble, I obviously did before and once is enough for me.

My biological father was recently booked for several illicit activities. I was advised to stay away from him.

I never had much interest in my extended family, but when I read my bio-grandfather's obituary I couldn't help but start writing everything down. I finally understand where my talents come from.

I think it's perfectly normal to want to meet only one of your first relatives, or ever single one of them. I think even if you don't want to know them its okay too.

[hrisme]

I actually have only met my birthfather's extended family--his two brothers & their wives. I've talked with his sister over the phone. He was not willing to meet with me, but they were willing to welcome me into the family. I wasn't ready for serious relationships, so I didn't follow up on things--keep telling myself I will, but never do. It was amazing to meet with them & see how similar our characteristics were, even though they were extended family. There was no question we were related!

[Dickons]

I would like to know both of my birth families. And just like in any family there will be those that connect and others that are just relatives. I just met some of my mothers family and it was incredibe...what comes out of meeting them will be up to whether or not we connect and get closer as we meet up again and get to know each other better...

Kind regards,
Dickons

[wishfulthinker]

At this point, I would like to start by meeting my birthparents. I will respect their wishes regarding their families. The last thing I want to do is to disrupt of upset anyone's lives and since I do not know the circumstances of my adoption or my bparents, I will let them decide if further contact is an option.

[snuffie]

I have reunited with my birthsiblings on my bmom's side.
And my bmom was also adopted and I searched and found her bmom! My bgrandmother! Although she had passed away a long time ago, her cousin is still alive and had a reunion for me a couple of years ago even though he had never known that his cousin had placed a baby for adoption! It was one of the nicest days I have ever spent. I met his children and his nieces and we all felt we'd known each other forever! We still keep in touch. And I found that I have 5 birth cousins who never knew they had even one cousin because they didn't have any on their mother's or father's side (or so they thought!) Sadly, only one wants contact but she is so nice it doesn't matter that the others don't.
And they have shared what they remembered about my grandmother and even about my great-grandparents. It was like a walk back into history - A history I'd never known I had!

[djvj]

Originally Posted by snuffie

I have reunited with my birthsiblings on my bmom's side.
And my bmom was also adopted and I searched and found her bmom! My bgrandmother! Although she had passed away a long time ago, her cousin is still alive and had a reunion for me a couple of years ago even though he had never known that his cousin had placed a baby for adoption! It was one of the nicest days I have ever spent. I met his children and his nieces and we all felt we'd known each other forever! We still keep in touch. And I found that I have 5 birth cousins who never knew they had even one cousin because they didn't have any on their mother's or father's side (or so they thought!) Sadly, only one wants contact but she is so nice it doesn't matter that the others don't.
And they have shared what they remembered about my grandmother and even about my great-grandparents. It was like a walk back into history - A history I'd never known I had!

what a great story. to have found not only your bmom, but her bmom!!!! i am very happy for you, and best of luck!