[mariarippy]

Yup...I would have taken this person/anyone to the debate gates of hell over the statement

The day we were given away was the day that it became irriversable.

before family stopped comunicating. Its true as much as I want to believe people can move on without incident I can't believe it into being...

[01Rain]

My friend, I am of a different situation, but with similar feelings. I was adopted as well, and have never felt part of anything. In fact I don't like to join groups, organizations, or teams. I prefer to be alone and mask it by excelling in individual activities. I easily make friends but go to great lengths to push them away or keep them at bay. My relationships always end on my account with the other party left to wonder what happened?

Even though we both are adopted our wounds will heal differently, so you must find your own path. In the meantime, don't hang your head, accept yourself, and know that others won't understand your actions.

[rd74pel]

I feel that way too, that as an adoptee, I've never fully belonged in groups of people, and like to spend a lot of my free time in individual activities. That's my way of recharging. Yet, at the same time, I feel the need to belong to a group. My compromise is to work in an organization, so I'm in contact with people all day long, but then I keep my private self for home. From what I read, adoptees are split in so many ways. Does anyone else feel a split between a public and private self? I think this goes back to the conflict over intimacy that several adoptees have expressed on this thread.