[hale22]

HI I am 15 and have been in foster care for over 12 years now. I know little to any information about my birth parents. I dont know why i was taken away from them either. But my real problem is that it is really hard for me to talk to adults. I get really nervous and its hard for me to talk. I play many sports for my high school and another problem is when they yell trying to motivate I usually brake down and start crying. Whenever an adult raises there voice i get really nervous and it is hard to even complete normal tasks. I was wondering if anyone has had this same problem, and if there is any way to become more comfortable around adults. I would love to talk to anyone in the same position. That would be great! --Thanks

[adopted_78]

"HI I am 15 and have been in foster care for over 12 years now. I know little to any information about my birth parents. I dont know why i was taken away from them either. But my real problem is that it is really hard for me to talk to adults. I get really nervous and its hard for me to talk. I play many sports for my high school and another problem is when they yell trying to motivate I usually brake down and start crying. Whenever an adult raises there voice i get really nervous and it is hard to even complete normal tasks. I was wondering if anyone has had this same problem, and if there is any way to become more comfortable around adults. I would love to talk to anyone in the same position. That would be great! --Thanks"

Haven't had this problem but maybe you could talk to your school social worker? or your foster parents? Maybe keeping a journal would help? I know writing about feelings that i have sometimes help me when I feel frustrated. I know it's hard to trust people and reach out to them for help but sometimes we all need someone to talk to.

[JFriday]

Hale22,

I'm not in your same position, but can offer some simple advice. I am a thirty-year old adoptee and mother of a ten year old and one on the way (due in 5 weeks) and have dealt with alot of situations. People express frustration and anger in different ways, but usually it comes out in the form of yelling, shouting, name calling, etc. If the yelling bothers you, then communicate your feelings about this. If your feelings and requests are ignored, please talk to someone about this...especially if it's an abusive situation.

Feel free to contact me at anytime via the thread or private message.

Best Wishes,

JFriday