[SparkyDMFD]

My birth-grandauther was born December 13, 2003 and went homle with the adoptive family 2 days later.

Today we visited her at her new "farm home" and it was FABULOUS! The adoptive couple welcomed us with open arms. Our daughter (the birthmom) is 17 and she was so excited to see the baby again. We were accompanied by my parents (the birth great grandparents). We had a wonderful couple of hours sharing in joy and many pictures.

Our open adoption is off to a fabulous start!

Love,

Grandma "Sparky"

[bromanchik]

Congratulations! It sounds wonderful!

[Voidra]

Please forgive my ignorance but if this was such a wonderful huge family affair with mom and grandparents and greatgrandparents why was the baby given up for adoption in the first place?

I don't understand if birthmom has so much family support how come the family isn't helping her to parent her baby?

Dorothy

[Sledge]

Voidra, I do not personally know for sure but I am assuming that the grandparents did not want to be parents again but an opportunity for them to continue being grandparents was available to them through an open adoption. I may not agree with the choice of giving up a child to adoption but if the bmom is not ready to be a mom and the parents/grandparents are getting up there in age this may be the best option for all. We adopted ason whose bmom did not want to be a mom and the grandparents were up there in age and did not want to start over with a young child. I do feel sorry for grandparents when they do not get to see there grandchildren, if a bmom chooses to give up their child for adoption they usually have no say in the matter where the child goes if it is a private adoption.

[saj]

Thanks for the update. I am so happy that things are working out so well for your family. Your daughter and grandaughter are fortunate in having the support.

For those who missed it, Sparky posted the story on another thread in the form of a beautifully written letter.

Sledge: Actually in this day and age most birthmothers in our country do have the option of choosing birthparents for their children, as well as the option to choose what type of adoption they want to enter into. We've come a long way, but still need to go farther in order to embrace the "It takes a whole village to raise a child" phylosophy.

Sincerely,

Saj

[AMom2Two]

(((Sparky))))

How wonderful that everyone was able to get together and have a nice visit at the baby's home. When I had my daughters bmom and her son here to our home, she told me she just loves to see where her daughter is, what her room looks like, what toy's she's playing with, etc. I always look forward to the visits with her bparents and am glad that I can have them to our home. It's very relaxing for all involved.

Some of us feel that when you take in a child, you take in a family. It sounds like your grandchild's parents feel the same way. How very nice and sweet that everyone likes one another and respects their position in the childs life. That child will grow up knowing how very much she is loved. I think pictures are worth a million words sometimes. I show my daughter pictures of the last time we were all together, as a family. She knows their names and faces but doesn't understand the relationship yet.

I feel this type of adoption is the best for all involved. I'm glad you agree. Hugs to you and Have a Happy New Year! Don't let other people's mean comments take away your joy. Believe me, we all get them

Bye

[Sledge]

Saj, I meant to put "the grandparents" instead of they, I goofed. Thanks for correcting me though.

if a bmom chooses to give up their child for adoption "the grandparents" usually have no say in the matter where the child goes if it is a private adoption.