[butterfly903]

Okay I wrote before, and I shared that we had the name of my fiance's birth mother and her phone number and address. We called and left a message (probably not the best way) I found someone that knew the mother and asked if they knew any information and by doign that found my fiance's potential father. Because we had called we decided to send a letter but never got around to it. We met someone that was very close to her and asked if they could mention to her if she would be interested in contacting him. (of course this probably wasnt the best way) She denied having a child and threatened to sue whomever tries to contact her again. Now I know that this avenue was about done backwards so my question is can there be legal ramifications for us trying to contact her?? We dont know if she didnt want to be contacted. We didnt have any information to go off of but the Vital Stats Birth Certificate.

[Jan18]

I agree, leaving a message on an answering machine was probably not the best way to start off. I personally feel a letter is always the best first point of contact, but that is me. And telling a "friend" before the mom has made any contact probably put her on the defensive. I know I ONLY talked to close relatives who knew about me and with my mother's consent. She lives out of town, yet much of her family still lives in the area that I was adopted in and raised. There is a lot of crow to eat in this situation. Does she at least have your boyfriend's contact information? A cell number, address and/or e-mail. I would give her some time before contacting again. I would wait a while before anymore contact. That is just my feelings.

I am not sure about the legal ramifications. Maybe someone here can answer that question for you.

[InBlindFaith]

Did you leave the message and talk to the friend? If so, I would wait a little bit and have your fiance write her a letter and include a couple of pictures.