[ripples]

Can anyone recommend some more concise readings about the turmoil of post-adoption search and reunion? I'm looking for readings that're aimed at helping non-adoption triangle people (eg. friends, partners, family members, etc) try to understand what we're going through.

One of my friends has honestly said that she's trying to help in being supportive but doesn't really know how. So I said to her that all I need is some acknowledgement, empathy, that I appreciate how hard it must be to truly fathom what one hasn't been through.

I've forwarded her a local post-adoption resource centre web site http://www.bensoc.org.au/parc_search/ as well as an online article about 7 core issues of adoption http://www.adopting.org/silveroze/ht..._adoption.html (the article was recommended by my local post-adoption resource centre). Any other shorter, recommended readings (she's not into books) would be much appreciated.

[wilted rose]

I've posted, as I know others have about this very issue. While it's a given that people who are not part of the triad cannot possibly relate, we find ourselves seeking support from other sources: books, support groups, wonderful forums (with a wealth of knowledge)! Having said that there is still an isolation we experience with not being able to share with our loved ones the way we would in other major events. Often because in sharing people want to feel like they're helping by offering advice, but you nailed it-truly it is empathy we're needing so desperately.
Rose