[Tharris]

My hope and aspiration is to someday meet my birthfamily. I will be 21 years old in about a week and I am constantly dreaming about me being with my family. Considering that my adoption records are sealed I feel unsure that I will never find my birthfamily. But if I had one wish for my birthday I would wish that God would grant me the power to be confident in my search for my family. I would also want my birthfamily to be looking for me so I won't be doing all the work. But if my family really wasn't looking for me I would really feel sad because it will seem as if they don't care where I'm at and how I am doing. I don't understand my whole situation about my adoption but I hope that one day I will have a better understanding about it.

[angelleyes]

Hi I was just reading your post and if you are in a search for your parents maybe you should give more information ,that might help.
Im a birth moher in search of my daughter so I do understand what your saying ,I really hope she is looking for me .
I wish you luck ,Angelleyes

[kersey19]

Don't be upset if your bparents are not searching for you -- it does not mean they don't care. My daugher sought me out and we reunited December 20, 2003. I was not searching because I did not know that I could. When I placed my daughter for adoption I was told I could never search for her -- that my rights ended when she was placed. The laws changed but I'm not sure I would have searched had I known. The reason -- I would not have wanted to interfere in her life. She may not have wanted to know who I was, may not have known she was adopted -- there were too many circumstances that were unknown. I guess in my mind I placed her into the hands of her parents and my right to know ended when I made that decision.

Not searching for her didn't mean I didn't think about her, that I didn't love her. I thought about her for 20 years. I wondered if she had a good life, prayed she was raised by a loving family and prayed that she was healthy. I thought about her on her birthday and other major milestones in her life. She was never forgotten.

You are taking a brave step. I have told my daughter that I consider her the bravest person I know for reaching out to me. Good luck with your search.

[snuffie]

I agree with Kersey. If you find that your bparents are not searching it does not in any way mean they don't care. Some people are not aware that they can search. Others are not computer literate (yes, even in this day and age.) And some are so worried that they will cause too much of a disruption in their sons or daughters life.
Some are just afraid to take the first step.
I also wanted to say "dreams do come true." I had to wait many years but I guess when the time was right everything fell into place and I have been reunited with my bfamily for 4 years now. It once seemed like an impossible dream to me too.
As in all things, God knows best. And when the time is right miracles do happen.

[blankenb4]

Have you registered with the ISRR ? If not, you can download the application at www.isrr.net .

Another good site is http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Flats/3666/

Also, when posting, use date of birth, gender, and city and state of birth when known.

There are many registeries on the web on which you can register. Some are state specific.

I agree with the birthmoms above about why you bparents may not be searching. I personally did not think that I had the right until one day I decided that I should make it easy for my birthdaughter in case she was looking.

Best wishes in your search,

Barbara