[thelowlanders]

Anything to help w/ having mulitple "mommies"? you know...b-mom, fstr mom, new fstrmom, new mom to adopt you, etc.

Or what should I read for puddling and other issues?

Or when a child is pulled by what I've been told are loyalty lines. They want to enjoy their foster family. But their B-family is drilling them to hate them. How can we help these kids? Our FD is so confused.

We're really in need of some info.

We have the connected child. Anything else? Any good books about what a mommy actually is for kids?

Thank you

[Lorraine123]

Is she in therapy? Therapy should address these issues.

[thelowlanders]

She had a "specialist". After a couple months she told us we were excellent parents w/great instincts doing well with her. That we didn't need her services. Surprisingly, I hated hearing that go figure. I want to be told to do this,this, and this. You know? So...no...no therapist as of right now.

[greenmama]

I like the book "Maybe Days" by Jennifer Wilgocki Amazon.com: Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care: Jennifer Wilgocki, Marcia Kahn Wright, Alissa Imre Geis: Books it mentions a lot of the issues you talked about in your post. Maybe try that.

[humanchild]

I like Maybe Days. I also like Todd Parr's The Family Book. Does anyone else have any ideas for books that might help a ten year old understand about foster care and adoption? I am thinking when I was his age I was reading Anne of Green Gables, and he might relate a lot to themes in that book, but probably wouldn't read it because she is a girl.