[dd53]

I just finished reading this book and I think every adoptive parent should read it so they understand more about what they are facing. It is a very easy read but so informative!

[zebramom]

Read it's partner book, "Parenting the Hurt Child". It is an awesome book as well.

[chevyjewel]

I read both but thought they painted a very dim picture of children from the system. They're not all hurt to the extent most often described by the author and many can be helped with proper resources. These two books were borrowed to me by a fellow foster parent and they just made me so upset. Sure the scenarios may be realistic in a few cases but I felt like the author gave the impression that most if not all children coming thru the system were as hurt as was described. I felt these books would deter most people thinking about doing foster care from taking the next step.

[msdizzydolores]

Originally Posted by chevyjewel

I read both but thought they painted a very dim picture of children from the system. They're not all hurt to the extent most often described by the author and many can be helped with proper resources. These two books were borrowed to me by a fellow foster parent and they just made me so upset. Sure the scenarios may be realistic in a few cases but I felt like the author gave the impression that most if not all children coming thru the system were as hurt as was described. I felt these books would deter most people thinking about doing foster care from taking the next step.

Thank you for posting this. I will try and locate the books in a few days.

I am now wondering and starting to regret my decision of going through foster care because all of the children who have been sent my way have all sort of psychiatric, sexual, and emotional issues.

I just want to be a mother. I don't have the insurance I had at my last employer to have my adoption paid for. So going through the foster care sytem was my only option FOR NOW.

I am scared to adopt an older child now through the system. And I don't want to feel that way.

[Becki_in_IN]

The people that wrote this book work with kids that have Reactive Attachment Disorder. Sure all adoptive kids don't have this, but they are at-risk for it because of the grief, loss, and broken attachments. I think it should be required reading for everyone that wants to adopt. Jump over on the Special Needs forum to read more about these kids.