[lauriejean.1]

I have a terrible problem, we adopted our son when he was 5 through foster adopt program in Washington state, that was 12 years ago and he is now 17. He has been the most difficult child with serious anger, emotional, psychological problems, we have sent him to therapy, counseling, medications, military school, out of home placement with my family, you name it since he was 12. We just found out he has been sexually molesting our adopted 8 year old daughter since she was 3! He is now in a prison facility for juveniles but is getting out in 2 months and the state says we either need to take him back home again (which we are refusing to do) or send him to a treatment/group home facility at a cost of 7-10,000/month!! They say the state will not help us because we adopted him and this is our responsibility alone, the most we could hope for is if we qualified for low-income (which we don't) the state would put 1,300/month towards his treatment. (a drop in the bucket!) He can't be sent out on his own as he is developmentally delayed and would just die out on the streets. We are told it is our responsibility, yet the state also acknowledges that if he were a foster child, his treatment would be paid in full. I am ready to cry. Help me please. I have contacted everyone I can think of and no one can help me yet. Thank you, Laurie (lauriejean.1@comcast.net)

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Originally Posted by lauriejean.1

I have a terrible problem, we adopted our son when he was 5 through foster adopt program in Washington state, that was 12 years ago and he is now 17. He has been the most difficult child with serious anger, emotional, psychological problems, we have sent him to therapy, counseling, medications, military school, out of home placement with my family, you name it since he was 12. We just found out he has been sexually molesting our adopted 8 year old daughter since she was 3! He is now in a prison facility for juveniles but is getting out in 2 months and the state says we either need to take him back home again (which we are refusing to do) or send him to a treatment/group home facility at a cost of 7-10,000/month!! They say the state will not help us because we adopted him and this is our responsibility alone, the most we could hope for is if we qualified for low-income (which we don't) the state would put 1,300/month towards his treatment. (a drop in the bucket!) He can't be sent out on his own as he is developmentally delayed and would just die out on the streets. We are told it is our responsibility, yet the state also acknowledges that if he were a foster child, his treatment would be paid in full. I am ready to cry. Help me please. I have contacted everyone I can think of and no one can help me yet. Thank you, Laurie (lauriejean.1@comcast.net)

that is so strange that they would insist that you take him back. Considering that anyone else whould stand to lose any other children in their home if they brought a child molester back into the home.

I don't know what to say..

Hugs

[lucyjoy]

Have you requested a department of mental health worker or looked into options for developmentally disabled adults?

I assume you already went over the subsidy workers head to request appropriate subsidy to fund a facility for your son to go to? Any support groups in your area that may know what the laws really are?

Juvenile athorities have any suggestions?

How about a cheap mobile home or apartment or something that he could live in and maybe assist him a bit?

Will he qualify for SSI?

You might want to visit Welcome to Attachment & Trauma Network* - ATN and request on their little zebras list serve. Lots of parents there have battled the system over care for their kids, including the issues you describe. someone there may have answers for you.