[nixmom]

I hope someone can answer my question. I was recently contacted by my birthson and he said he wants to get to know me and my family. It has been almost a week since I heard from him. What do I do? I don't want to harass him or his amom as I have their e-mail addresses and could contact them. He has just turned 18 and contacted me on his birthday. Can someone please tell me how to go about this? Thank you.

[shirleyville]

Congratulations on the contact from your son!! That's great news!! It seems as tho he gave himself a pretty wonderful birthday present -- wouldn't you agree!!??!?!
Since he said he wanted to get to know you and your family -- and since he gave you all of his contact information, I see no reason why you shouldn't just e-mail him or call him! He seems very open, and since he initiated the contact, I would just do whatever feels best!! Did he mention that it was okay to write? How did you leave things when you last spoke?
Don't be afraid.....he obviously wants to know you! Just contact him and feel out the situation! Ask him how he would like to proceed if you feel comfortable doing that.
Remember.....he's an 18 year old man-child!!! A week is nothing to them....he may just be consumed in 18 year old "stuff"!
Hang in there, and again, congrats on the reunion!
Hugs,
Sally

[FatBirdy]

I agree with Sally - one week is not a long time. Since he contacted you and gave you his contact info I would just email him. When i first started communicating with my bmom - email was what really got our relationship off the ground. It's not the best way to comunicate but it's a great medium to swap stories and info. Email is how bmom and I got to get to know the little deatils about each other. I think that you should email your son and, like Sally said, ask him how he would like to procede in a relationship. Also ask him lots of fun little questions that are easy to answer. I think bmom and I had the most fun sharing likes and dislikes...we found out that we were very similar. We talked about what we like or don't like to eat, similar intrests, what we both studied in school, quirky personality traits and favorite things.....we also found out that we have driven the same cars in the same colours....these are fun things to find out and at least for me, certainly deepend the connection! Good luck to you!