[lonelyinga]

It was so many years I had nothing of any use, but just very recently, finnaly I have DOB 8/31/1971, Williamsport Hospital, its been 36 years since I last saw his mother, we talk now, its so wonderful to have her back in my life even if she is over 800 miles away, so for the first time ever I have some hope, she gladly gave me all the info she has, and I have to believe it might be enough, She even gave my a copy of a photograph, that a wonderful caseworker, and foster family was kind enough to give her,The really discouraging part is, she tried to make contact years ago, and did recieve a request for medical history, and a very short letter from his aparents saying that he does know he was adopted, but they did not wish any further contact. God I hope he doesnt hate me, I'm shure he wouldnt if he knew how all this mess happened, I do have 2 other grown children now, they give me support now, they want to meet thier 1/2 brother, Some times when I read the search boards and see, happy ending stories I feel better, but there are so many other stories with not so good endings, sometimes I dont care how my story ends, as long as it does end, I wonder how much longer I have to feel so frustrated by the closed records of Pa.

[kakuehl]

Lonelyinga - where do you live? (800 miles in which way from Williamsport?) I understand the frustration of not knowing. My bson is a year younger than yours and I had about given up on finding him. (Although I hadn't done a lot of searching because I didn't have a clue on how to look.) I tried to leave a letter for him... but he never got it. He figured if I cared I'd hunt for him; I wasn't sure I had the right to do so, but always hoped he'd find me... I was lucky; when I registered here, I found he'd registered.

Have you registered on all the directories you can find? Just because his parents wanted no further contact doesn't mean that he hasn't looked! I know that D has told me that if I had found him when he was 18 or even 25, he would not have been as welcoming as he was at 33.

I hope you find him. I wish D could have known his bdad. (He died alomst 7 years ago.) I will keep you in my prayers.

[lonelyinga]

As my screen name says, Im in Georgia, yes Im registered a lot of places, and Ive been searching posts on all the sites I can find. Ive never cared if I had a right to search for him, its up to him, if he wants to talk, just hope he'll listen to the facts about it happened. He was never unwanted by me or his bmom, Im happy for you that you found your son, I no longer have the funds for professional searching but wont ever give up, but yes i certainly do get frustrated, his mom just gave me a photo she's had all these years, I put it in the photo contest, guess its too much to hope someone will recognize the room it was taken in

[kakuehl]

Ah... now I can read your screen name! Was his mom given any information about the adoptive family? I was given some non-id info when he was adopted that actually enabled me to be 99.9999% sure I had the right person when I found his name.

Don't give up! It's even possible that someone has a copy of the same picture and/or will recognise the baby!

[lonelyinga]

no, she lost the letter years ago, told me it was typewritten and kind of cold, said they didnt want any contact, and had no useful info at all, was passed thru adoption agency, so of course was no way to tell if it was mailed or even written on the spot, I do have some small details now like time of birth, ( but his nonidentifying copy may have that wrong) and the picture has his first name on back, but i realise that was probably changed. Its so hard for me to believe our elected lawmakers would pass such terridle laws that hurt so many people so badly, they dont know the story here, yet they think they know whats best, I can understand his aparents not wanting contact when he was younger, I dont hold that against them, but at 35 years old its inconceivable to me that he doesnt want to know the whole true story

[kakuehl]

Do you know the name of the adoption agency? Some people seem to have success going through the agency. When D checked for his information, the agency had closed (I have no idea what the name of it was!)

I believe that records should be open, but then I'm not (and never have) tried to hide. There are many, on all sides of the triad, who want the records to remain sealed. I guess I've always had problems with other people telling me what's best for me and my situation!

[lonelyinga]

HaHa, yes, contacting the agency, which I now have the name of was a joke! They returned my first contact right away, saying they would be glad to try to contact him for me, but they requested a large sum of money up front, and could not guarantee they could find him after so many years, then after they found out I could not pay it, and only was requesting they place a letter in his file with permission to give my info to him, they now will not return any of my correspondence, gee they got him for free, sold him for a profit, and now wont talk to me cause I cant pay them more, sounds to me like the agencys have a large stake in keeping the records sealed

[kakuehl]

Wow! I think I'd be tempted to say..if you find him we'll talk about fee! Have you investigated what the state rules are about unsealing records? I have no clue, myself. I can tell you I've read many posts in these forums written by adoptees who share your frustrations.

[lonelyinga]

LOL, yeh i'd tell them that, but like I said, they wont return my request to place a letter in his file (and yes my requests hane been very nice, I've tried very hard not to say anything to upset them), I've given up on the agency, I believe they have no intrest in anything but $$. and as far as opening records in Pa, that just doesnt seem to happen. Oh well, I just gota believe Ill find him another way, After all I did finally find his mother after 30 years of looking, its great to have that wonderful woman back in my life, even if we do only talk online

[kakuehl]

bumping the thread... Central PA anyone?

[guatadoptmom]

Hi, we're in the Reading, PA area. We are in the process of adopting from Guatemala. Looking for any support- submitted our I-600A in it's entirety to the Phila USCIS office on 5/11 (3 weeks ago). Does anyone here have an idea of the current timeline? Thanks,

[kakuehl]

Hi, my brother lives in Bechtelsville... I'm a birthmom and have no clue what the timeline is. Have you posted a thread on the Guatemala forum?

[2Hounddoogles]

Hi there! I'm originally from the Clearfield area of PA, and now live in Bedford! My husband and I are currently waiting to be chosen for adoption.

Where did everyone go on this thread? I'm very surprised there aren't more PA people on here!

[kakuehl]

Hi, I live in Jennerstown. I did my internship in Bedford (I lived a block from the fairgrounds). My first call was in Glasow and I served as a vacancy pastor at Houtzdale and at Philippsburg.

I which you well as you wait to be chosen.

[Emberbit]

Is Harrisburg/Hershey Area considered central PA? That's where I am...