[luv2bmummy]

It sure did....I do wish I had gone through the county, only because I know they place the children first and we really want an infant. But we need our hand held through this process and I am sure my heart will be broken so I know going through the agency will be better. Just very very nervous!

[FosterMomGE]

I'm looking at a private agency and resigned from the county. They are strictly reunification and in one of my cases--almost mob-like in their approach to it. I won't mention the county because of my comment. My first foster child came to me at birth til he was 5+ months and we willingly transitioned him to kinship (with a broken heart). A couple weeks later the kinship mother wanted him returned to me and called me to tell me she spoke with the county. Being new, I rejoiced....only to get an education of my life. They practically strong-armed her into keeping him. It was only two weeks, so in retrospect, I understand it better now a year later (but she shouldn't have called me). Then almost a year later he was up for adoption she called me again and said adamantly (and very decidedly that she was not adopting him). With this information, I wrote a letter of intent and started the process. I got the run-around and didn't understand what was happening and after several letters to understand why we weren't being considered were not being responded to after we were told to get family profile update, we got the state officials involved. Only to find out five months later, broken hearted once more that the kinship mother changed her mind (again, why did she call me) and why did the county not tell me when I only came forward due to her call and specifically said we would like to be considered only if kinship wasn't found. It took 3 letters to them, three letter to state officials before we got an answer that they could have given us easily. The state official said they are not "required" to. Therefore, it is left open to them and they chose to be heartless. It was heartbreaking. I am sensitive and need hand-holding myself and after this experience I know I should have always gone private. Wish I knew this before.

[7brats]

Originally Posted by FosterMomGE

I'm looking at a private agency and resigned from the county. They are strictly reunification and in one of my cases--almost mob-like in their approach to it. I won't mention the county because of my comment. My first foster child came to me at birth til he was 5+ months and we willingly transitioned him to kinship (with a broken heart). A couple weeks later the kinship mother wanted him returned to me and called me to tell me she spoke with the county. Being new, I rejoiced....only to get an education of my life. They practically strong-armed her into keeping him. It was only two weeks, so in retrospect, I understand it better now a year later (but she shouldn't have called me). Then almost a year later he was up for adoption she called me again and said adamantly (and very decidedly that she was not adopting him). With this information, I wrote a letter of intent and started the process. I got the run-around and didn't understand what was happening and after several letters to understand why we weren't being considered were not being responded to after we were told to get family profile update, we got the state officials involved. Only to find out five months later, broken hearted once more that the kinship mother changed her mind (again, why did she call me) and why did the county not tell me when I only came forward due to her call and specifically said we would like to be considered only if kinship wasn't found. It took 3 letters to them, three letter to state officials before we got an answer that they could have given us easily. The state official said they are not "required" to. Therefore, it is left open to them and they chose to be heartless. It was heartbreaking. I am sensitive and need hand-holding myself and after this experience I know I should have always gone private. Wish I knew this before.

Wow, what a sad story. I am thinking about you today. I am also grieving for the children I gave up for kinship,but in my case the children were removed suddenly and we were never given the opportunity to say good bye.I am sure by now the children think I abandoned them and in my case I felt my private agency did not do enough.
I guess the system in itself really needs an overhaul.
Hang in there,my thoughts and prayers are with you.

[7brats]

has anyone gotten any refferals this week? It has been the same for me.......NO CALLS AT ALL