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I am just wondering what is the average age that everyone is getting foster calls on in Pennsylvania.I was told before that it was over 6 ,but reading these post it looks like the children in care are getting younger.

I am anxious and still waiting for my to ring !!!!!

[stilldeciding]

So far I got a call for a 5 month old AA baby girl..who was one of a set of twins..they chose for some reason to split them up...I then heard about a call for an AA 9 month old baby girl..but she way placed to fast for us to respond with a yes or no...the next child was a 2 1/2 month old CC baby girl...and then the 4 year old twin CC boys...so so far..we have been CALLED for young kids..which from what I understand is not the norm.

We are looking for kids ages 2-7 mostly..but with the recent babies being available..I think I have realized and opened up my mind to them and MAY consider it.

We also have been called about a half dozen older kids who are "adoptable" I think 2-3 we were interested in and got more information. Only 1 child we actually have went and put in an actual homestudy in for...we won't hear about if we were chosen till next month. We also have called about at least 6 more on our own and for some reason or another they were not a match.

So for now..we continue to wait.

[7brats]

Originally Posted by stilldeciding

So far I got a call for a 5 month old AA baby girl..who was one of a set of twins..they chose for some reason to split them up...I then heard about a call for an AA 9 month old baby girl..but she way placed to fast for us to respond with a yes or no...the next child was a 2 1/2 month old CC baby girl...and then the 4 year old twin CC boys...so so far..we have been CALLED for young kids..which from what I understand is not the norm.

We are looking for kids ages 2-7 mostly..but with the recent babies being available..I think I have realized and opened up my mind to them and MAY consider it.

We also have been called about a half dozen older kids who are "adoptable" I think 2-3 we were interested in and got more information. Only 1 child we actually have went and put in an actual homestudy in for...we won't hear about if we were chosen till next month. We also have called about at least 6 more on our own and for some reason or another they were not a match.

So for now..we continue to wait.

Wow, those are the ages I would LOVE to get calls for!!!I am wondering why my agencies doesn't call me for these ages.
Thus far I got a call for a 17 year old boy,I had to decline because he had issues that would not be good around my kids.Next a sibling group of 5 Hispanic children that they wanted to split up,I took the 2 and 4 year old,that was 3 days after the first call.They stayed for 6 months.
I did not get any calls for 3 months and it was for a 14 year old AA girl who was out of my age range.
Thats is it,they just aren't calling me for the kids.At first they were but now nothing....wish you could send some of those calls my way ........
I would love to have twins,or a sibling set again.In fact any call would be appreciated!!!

[stilldeciding]

I DO feel so bad being so picky..or at least that is how I feel sometimes. At first, DH and I felt like we didn't want a baby. We got rid of all our baby stuff, the kids are older and mobile and we are so involved with church, karate, etc..that we thought we just didn't have the life for a baby right now. And because we are adopting, the one thing we felt we could choose was the age..and after a lot of thought..we felt a toddler aged or older..but under our boys age would work best. We feel we have the greatest set up in our house for kids this age group. We have every imaginable backyard toy, a house full of toys for that age group and a life a child that age would absolutely love and thrive in HERE. I know our agency won't call us for kids older then 9-10 as we told them we would not even consider that age. The kid(s) HAVE to be under youngest DS age. But really I expected them to still call us on kids over 10..but so far they have respected that...which is nice. But now since they have called us on so many smaller kids..we are thinking maybe God is trying to warm us, mostly me up to the idea. So now we are thinking...we will consider a baby if it is the right match for us. But it HAS to be a child who can keep up with the busy demands of 2 very active boys. I know so many on this site want so badly a baby and yet we get calls and WE prefer a bit older. Wish I could send them your way. You sound like you would so enjoy these kids. Just curious, is your desire to still adopt again? How old are your kids?

[7brats]

Originally Posted by stilldeciding

I DO feel so bad being so picky..or at least that is how I feel sometimes. At first, DH and I felt like we didn't want a baby. We got rid of all our baby stuff, the kids are older and mobile and we are so involved with church, karate, etc..that we thought we just didn't have the life for a baby right now. And because we are adopting, the one thing we felt we could choose was the age..and after a lot of thought..we felt a toddler aged or older..but under our boys age would work best. We feel we have the greatest set up in our house for kids this age group. We have every imaginable backyard toy, a house full of toys for that age group and a life a child that age would absolutely love and thrive in HERE. I know our agency won't call us for kids older then 9-10 as we told them we would not even consider that age. The kid(s) HAVE to be under youngest DS age. But really I expected them to still call us on kids over 10..but so far they have respected that...which is nice. But now since they have called us on so many smaller kids..we are thinking maybe God is trying to warm us, mostly me up to the idea. So now we are thinking...we will consider a baby if it is the right match for us. But it HAS to be a child who can keep up with the busy demands of 2 very active boys. I know so many on this site want so badly a baby and yet we get calls and WE prefer a bit older. Wish I could send them your way. You sound like you would so enjoy these kids. Just curious, is your desire to still adopt again? How old are your kids?

Actually I want younger and DH wants school age.Our last placement 2 and 4 were perfect for me but my husband wanted them to be older.My home is actually set up for girls ages 1 to 6 years old.But I am open to all younger ages.
I actually have 7 children but my 3 older (bio kids) are adults now. My children at home are 15,12,12 and 11.Each of them would like to have a child that is his or her age but I prefer a younger child to grow up with the family if we adopt or foster.
We are up for either foster or adoption but would prefer something that is long term.
All of my children were 2 (the boys) and 4(the girls) so I want younger but whatever GOD GIVES US....I am just ready for it to happen .....

[stilldeciding]

I think its wonderful that you have so many kids and so many ages. But I can see why you would want younger kids too. I mean the toddler age is so fun. I love babies but can bypass that stage and not totally miss it. But the toddler age is the time where I just love and I think if I don't find a child that age group..I will still want to go through that age again. I know DH has always said he would be open to up to 4 kids total. But then I worry (lol) like you that once I begin...with kids being such a blessing...maybe??? I would want more. I just am so immature for my age I guess. I run around with the kids..and so enjoy everything kids do. I'm a Christian, I don't drink or smoke, never have..don't like the bar scene, and only like adults who act more fun loving. I just am an overgrown kid myself! I give my kids huge 12- 14 hour parties where we go to a family fun place. We invite like 20 plus kids and all their parents for the entire day and just have fun. We have done this for 7 years in a row now and this October when my boys turn 13 and 11 it will be year number EIGHT at the same place. I just love kids, DH too. Our caseworker even laughed when he came to our home as the walls are lined..and I mean lined with hundreds of my kids photos. And I got more stored away. DH fears we will have no more walls to paint soon as our "wallpaper" of photos in frames takes over the house. But hey I just love my boys. I guess if number 3 comes soon...I will need a u-haul to buy all the things I have planned for this child. Thank God I work at a store, that is WHY I work at a store. I went to college 2 years, loved it, graduated..but when I thought about more education...and I want to go back...my first thought always comes back to...BUT I love my job....to be a Mom...for me...nothing compares!!! Plus in what Job can you jump, swim, swing...etc and get payed with love and hugs and kisses...just awesome! GOD IS SO GOOD isn't he? How lucky are we, huh? And SEVEN kids for you....so MUCH fun! I will be so excited for you when you find the ONE you know is to be with you. You are going to be so happy..I will be happy for you too!

[7brats]

Originally Posted by stilldeciding

I think its wonderful that you have so many kids and so many ages. But I can see why you would want younger kids too. I mean the toddler age is so fun. I love babies but can bypass that stage and not totally miss it. But the toddler age is the time where I just love and I think if I don't find a child that age group..I will still want to go through that age again. I know DH has always said he would be open to up to 4 kids total. But then I worry (lol) like you that once I begin...with kids being such a blessing...maybe??? I would want more. I just am so immature for my age I guess. I run around with the kids..and so enjoy everything kids do. I'm a Christian, I don't drink or smoke, never have..don't like the bar scene, and only like adults who act more fun loving. I just am an overgrown kid myself! I give my kids huge 12- 14 hour parties where we go to a family fun place. We invite like 20 plus kids and all their parents for the entire day and just have fun. We have done this for 7 years in a row now and this October when my boys turn 13 and 11 it will be year number EIGHT at the same place. I just love kids, DH too. Our caseworker even laughed when he came to our home as the walls are lined..and I mean lined with hundreds of my kids photos. And I got more stored away. DH fears we will have no more walls to paint soon as our "wallpaper" of photos in frames takes over the house. But hey I just love my boys. I guess if number 3 comes soon...I will need a u-haul to buy all the things I have planned for this child. Thank God I work at a store, that is WHY I work at a store. I went to college 2 years, loved it, graduated..but when I thought about more education...and I want to go back...my first thought always comes back to...BUT I love my job....to be a Mom...for me...nothing compares!!! Plus in what Job can you jump, swim, swing...etc and get payed with love and hugs and kisses...just awesome! GOD IS SO GOOD isn't he? How lucky are we, huh? And SEVEN kids for you....so MUCH fun! I will be so excited for you when you find the ONE you know is to be with you. You are going to be so happy..I will be happy for you too!

Yes we are truly blessed.God has been good to us.Although we have hit the bump in the road I believe that GOD promises us HE will hear us when we pray and my prayer is to be within His will that He will send the children or child He wants us to have.
Our family are also big kids at heart and very family oriented.In fact all 7 of my children are always very close and I see them all everyday.I also have a 5 month old grand daughter and she is almost like my 8th child.
We love kids so much and we are so ready!!!!!

[stilldeciding]

Yes you are so blessed..why I believe God IS going to give you more kids! Can't wait to hear HOW God works in your life! I can't wait! Good Luck!

[7brats]

Originally Posted by stilldeciding

Yes you are so blessed..why I believe God IS going to give you more kids! Can't wait to hear HOW God works in your life! I can't wait! Good Luck!

I can't wait either, I know it will be mind boggeling but I just wish it would happen!!!! I know God's time is not my time however so until HE blesses me I just have to wait and trust HIM.

[stilldeciding]

Same with me...I wait and wait and wait. I want God's timing, BUT it is very emotional. I can not imagine how much you went through emotionally to find your kids. Though in the end its so worth it I am sure! It's funny though..my Mom who is a little anxious at the idea of us adopting, really has taken a huge liking to the boys we put in for to adopt. She has seen a picture of him and he looks so much like our family that it is so strange. Even though he is a bit older, like 6..she so wants us to get chosen for him. I think she will be disappointed if we don't but she agrees that if it is God's will then it will happen. But she is hopeful which is great. My Mom and Step-Dad are in their 70's and I think it is going to be fun to watch them interact with any new child we add to the family. They are just so devoted to our boys and visit them often as we live close by...so it will be so wonderful to see them with a new child. oh..the wait....lovely huh? Good thing for God...at least I can complain to him and of coarse DH and not hear.....zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz (LOL)

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I just can't believe that you got so many calls for so many little ones. I know you live quite a distance from me but it would really be nice to get calls like that.
Maybe God is saving my calls some just the right child,hopefully this time a child who will not have to leave or one who will stay longer then 6 months!!!

I know it is in His perfect will so as this week begins I am waiting and expecting HIM to do '' EXCEEDING AND ABUNDATLY ABOVE ALL I CAN ASK OR THINK'' there is no doubt in my mind that HE can do it.

I pray this will be our week

[stilldeciding]

I did..but in every situation..it just didn't feel like the one(s) for us. It made me and DH sick to say no. But because we have other kids in the home to consider we look at this criteria:

Does this call feel like God's will?
Are we the right kind of parents for this child?
Is this situation foster or foster to adopt?
Is this child right for our family?

Most times the first question is a NO so no need to go down the list..though we do still answer all the questions and each answer is a no.

So again we wait....ugh! I am beginning to wonder if it IS God's will for us to adopt. Just seems like so many calls yet not one is for us...how can that be? I just wonder if God is already speaking and I just refuse to hear. I know we are going to give it more time..but the longer things go on the more chance DH is just going to want to have another bio child. We both want to adopt, no doubt...BUT this roller coaster of insanity...is making us question HOW LONG we are willing to stay on with no guarantee of a child at the end!!!

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I guess thus far my agency only has teenagers.They told me of several children they have had over the last week and they were all teens over 14 and some girls with babies. So for now they are only telling me of teens.I already have 1 teen and 2 pre teens and I don't know if I could handle a third right now,so again I wait,and wait and wait..............

[stilldeciding]

We are still waiting too!!! I look at the current family we have and I think just one more child at least would make it feel complete. But with no calls coming in that are Gods will for us..I am really beginning to wonder if I shouldn't just get pregnant when our home study expires. It's so hard as we really wanted to do this...but then again..our desire is to add to our family and if this is not meant to be, then we need to move on. DH and I take the kids out a lot, and each time our boys always attract some smaller toddler aged child and this little kid will follow my boys all over the place. I watch with such pride as my boys nurture, love and play with this child. And I know it upsets them and me when they ask why they can't have another little sister or brother. I have no idea sometimes what to tell them....except that if its God's will for us it will happen. Good Luck during your wait. And hopefully soon the phone will ring for the child that is meant to be! God Bless!

[7brats]

Originally Posted by stilldeciding

We are still waiting too!!! I look at the current family we have and I think just one more child at least would make it feel complete. But with no calls coming in that are Gods will for us..I am really beginning to wonder if I shouldn't just get pregnant when our home study expires. It's so hard as we really wanted to do this...but then again..our desire is to add to our family and if this is not meant to be, then we need to move on. DH and I take the kids out a lot, and each time our boys always attract some smaller toddler aged child and this little kid will follow my boys all over the place. I watch with such pride as my boys nurture, love and play with this child. And I know it upsets them and me when they ask why they can't have another little sister or brother. I have no idea sometimes what to tell them....except that if its God's will for us it will happen. Good Luck during your wait. And hopefully soon the phone will ring for the child that is meant to be! God Bless!

Thank you,I say to my family every week that this is our week for a placement and I pray for God to show me signs here and there and He always does.
This week I am praying for HIM to "move the mountain" so my children will be brought to me,or I will at least know that they are coming.
I will be praying that BOTH you and I hear something this week.....God bless you too!!!