[nancyjhg]

If you feel that your child suffers from attachment problems, it is imperitive that you seek out support and the proper treatment from therapists who are trained to treat this specific disorder.

•Intense control battles, very bossy and argumentative; defiance and anger
•Resists affection on parental terms
•Lack of eye contact, especially with parents - will look into your eyes when lying
•Manipulative - superficially charming and engaging
•Indiscriminately affectionate with strangers
•Poor peer relationships
•Steals
•Lies about the obvious
•Lack of conscience - shows no remorse
•Destructive to property, self and/or others
•Lack of impulse control
•Hypervigilant/Hyperactive
•Learning lags/delays
•Speech and language problems
•Incessant chatter and/or questions
•Inappropriately demanding and/or clingy
•Food issues - hordes, gorges, refuses to eat, eats strange things, hides food
•Fascinated with fire, blood, gore, weapons, evil
•Very concerned about tiny hurts but brushes off big hurts
•Parents appear hostile and angry
•The child was neglected and/or physically abused in the first three years of life

[worriedparent]

Nancy, thanks for posting symptoms. Any idea HOW to find a therapist with speciality in AttDis in ADULT adoptee? My med plan psychs treat my son for the symptoms, which are the "common" ones (for AD patients) of anxiety and depression. But who helps the root causes, helps them learn adaptive behaviors, helps them find reasons to hope for a better life? I've run out of ideas! worriedparent

[Lorraine123]

RAD in an adult is borderline personality disorder. An adult has to want to be treated and most adults with this disorder will not participate in therapy. However, if your son truly wants to get better, find a therapist that fully understands personality disorder.

[thelowlanders]

Is what they call "puddling" part of this? Our Fd matches maybe half of these, and people her keep referring me to Attatchment disorders. She seriously has peeing issues that are unbelievable.

[Lorraine123]

Depends on the reason for the peeing. If its done for control, thats a RAD behavior.