[stephbix]

Hi all~

Last February we said good-bye to our foster daughter who was RAD. While she went to live with her great grandparents I still feel guilty like we did the wrong thing by not keeping her (we asked for her to be removed and they were willing to take her).

I know we did a lot for her in but at the same time I wonder if we could have done more. She is being seen by the same therapist that our son goes to so he has kept us up to date on how she is doing and it hasn't been good news.

How do you not feel guilty for knowing when to say when? Ever since she left I find myself wanting another child with RAD. I know it sounds sick but I just feel like I was given a special gift in being able to deal with these types of children and I feel I'm wasting it. (DH on the other hand is happy with just the two boys).

Have any of you had a similar experience?

~Steph~

[Howdy]

Could you get in contact with the g-grandparents and offer to provide some weekend respite? They might be very grateful, and you would probably be the best respite provider they can find, since you are familiar with the child. That would also give you a chance to see whether you really do want to try fostering another child with RAD.