[cdr25]

Hi, I have been lurking and have come out after finding out that I will most likely miscarry for the third time in the next few days. I don't know if you all remember me but I used to hang out with you when we were all pregnant with our babies.
I miscarried the first time at 13 weeks. Then, a year later I was blessed with my twins. Since the boys, now 17 months old, I have miscarried again at 7wks (in August) and just found out from my doctor that my blood panels are not going up fast enough and that I will most likely miscarry this baby also (at about 8 wks). I am crushed. I don't know what to do.

DH is at work and can't do anything but listen to me cry on the phone. I posted on the miscarriage board but I don't know any of them. I guess I came here because I feel like you ladies are all my pg friends know that you can all relate to what I am feeling right now. I just don't know what to do. I look at my two sweet babies and just cry for the one I am now losing. What do you do to make the hurt stop? We weren't "trying" to get pg - we just said if it happened it happened. Well, it has "happened" twice now and twice ending in m/c. I want another child, but I don't know if I can keep having miscarriages and be okay. I am so sad. Thanks for listening. Anastasia, Mommy to Evan and Matthew

[luvmy5kids]

Dear Anastasia-

Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your child. I have never miscarried, but I did lose my precious daughter Bailey in March after a courageous battle with a Congenital Heart Defect. She was buried on her 5 month birthday.

Some advice that I can offer is to surround yourself with people who understand. You can start with a support group called Compassionate friends. They were very helpful during my saddest days.

PLease let me know of I can help in any way.

{{{HUGS}}}
Danielle
mama to Jacob, Shawn, Dennis and Tazia, my angels on earth and ~Bailey~, my angel in Heaven

[jenp]

I have no helpful advice to give you, but my heart pains for you. I wanted to write and just give you a big old {{{HUG}}}

[SomeBunniesMom]

Anastasia,
I am so sorry to hear this. Please accept my sympathies. I have had 4 miscarriages myself and they are devastating experiences to go through. The grief can become overwhelming and it can be difficult to find someone who understands what you are feeling and can give you the emotional support you need. If you would like to talk about it privately, please feel free to email me.
Zibedo77@aol.com
- Robin -

[Denise Reilly]

Anastasia,
I am so sorry to hear this happen to you. I don't know anything about you, but I do know what you are going through. I have had 6 miscarriages, the longest pregnancy was with twins at 19 months. They found the problem after the last miscarriage, I was allergic to my husbands cells. It sounds strange, but true. My body would reject my husbands cells and would result in miscarriage. After that, I could not get pregnant and was later (3 years) diagnosed with cervical cancer. I am not saying that this would happen to you!!! I just want you to know that I understand what you are going through. Nothing anyone tells you will make the hurt go away. I was told that my blood tests was not going up and that I would probably lose the baby, but I kept believing that the doctors were wrong. We now just finished adopting a sibling group of two from Russia. God had other plans for us and we just didn't realize it, til now. I miss the idea of carrying a baby and feeling it grow in my stomach, but I love my 2 and 3 year old angels. Maybe, if you would like another child, you would consider adoption. I know it does not help you with what you are going through right now, but it may stear you in another direction and help you through this ordeal. Again, I am so sorry for what you are going through, but you will survive and you still have your other two angels to keep you going. If there is anything that I can do for you, or you would like to talk, you can e-mail me denise_reilly@comcast.net and I would be happy to talk with you. Take care and I will keep you in my prayers. Denise