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Originally Posted By Fran (a birthmum)

For two long years I have been turning over adoption in my head... and now that the birth father of my two angels (aged 2 and 9 months) has abandoned us and fathered a child elsewhere I have realized this is the best thing for my babies. However, everyone wants just a baby under a year old, and a caucasian... It's frustrating. This will be a difficult adoption, and I don't know where to turn. How can you find parents who want a little girl not just babies? And two of them together? They cannot be seperated... that would break my heart even further because amidst all the turmoil they have bonded to eachother.
My agency is trying to terminate the father's rights but it will be a legal battle for the adoptive parents if the father does what we expect him to...

Does anybody have any advice?

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Originally Posted By Jess

Fran,

I am sure there are many adoptive parents out there willing to take a legal risk. There are many willing to work in the best interest of you and your children. The agency needs to explains the risks involved to potential adoptive parents upfront. I think the difficulty may lay in the termination of paternal rights, not in the placement of the two children together. As far as where to turn...there are some good non profit agencies than can help you. If you are not happy with the advice you are currently receiving from your agency, there are many birthmothers here that may be able to give you some sound advise as to where else to turn. You also need a very good attorney of your own, not affiliated with an agency. One that will work on your behalf.

I hope this little bit helps.

All the Best..

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Originally Posted By HOW SAD

You will have no trouble finding parents for your children! How sad I feel for them...Yes you are doing the right thing if you cannot parent. Make sure they stay together.

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Originally Posted By Michie

Fran, did you every find adoptive parents for your two little babies. Let us know how you made out, please.

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Originally Posted By A FRIEND

PLEASE EMAIL ME AT RMNORMA22@AOL.COM FOR ADVICE BECAUSE YOU CANT REALLY TALK IN HERE YOUR FRIEND PRAYING FOR YOU

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Originally Posted By A FRIEND

IM SURE YOU WILL FIND TWO LOVING PEOPLE THAT WILL BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO ADOPT YOUR TWO KIDS.THERE ARE MANEY UNHAPPY FAMILYS WITH A HOLE IN THERE HEART THAT NEED TO BE FILLED.BUT MAKE SURE YOU GET AN ATTORNEY FOR YOURSELF OK WE WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND WE WISH YOU AND YOUR KIDS THE BEST AND MAKE SURE IN YOUR HEART THIS IS WHAT U WANT FOR YOUR KIDS IF YOU CANT CARE FOR THEM.TAKE CARE