[beach4me]

but then again...God does have a sense of humor, doesn't he?

I always wanted two (came from a family of 2) and my husband thought 2 would be nice (came from a family of 3).

So, we have three beautiful bio children, with only 5 yrs separating the oldest from the youngest. We tied our tubes and said we were done.

And then God whispers adoption into my husband's heart . Boy were we shocked!!! Now we are waiting on a beautiful little boy from Ecuador.

We have learned our lesson.....never say never!

Chante'

[fabfam]

Adopting with a large family
My husband and I have 6 bio kids. We really want to adopt, and have just started researching our options. It seems that having 6 kids already will not make things easy for us. (not that I planned on it being easy LOL!)

I had looked into the foster system a year ago or so, and they told me we had too many kids already. We are very interested in international, especially China, as dh speaks chinese and has spent a good deal of time there. But the government policy there is no more than 5 kids already in the house. The more I look around, the less hopefull I am getting.

Those of yu with large families who have adopted, how did you do it? I would love any advice on our best routes to follow.
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We had 4 bio kids when we started Foster parenting. We now have 6 we have adopted and hope to adopt again.
I think there are countries that have policies such as limit in kids in the home, age, etc but not the same policies if you are willing to take a child with special needs.
There are also so very many kids in the US that are waiting for homes.

[Colorbind love]

Check out the African nations, there are no limits on numbers of children already in the home. Same thing with Haiti, several countries in Latin America and India. China is one of the hardest to adopt from. Not only do they have tighter age limitations and number of children in the home issues, they also have an income requirement that becames rather large with a large family since its $10,000 per family member.

China, Nepal, and several other SE Asian countries are NOT programs for large families (though Hong Kong and Korea can be). Nepal is actually worse than China, requiring only 1 child in the home with an exception of 2 in the home if they are the same gender. They also only allow the adoption of one child. I'm told they routinely split even twins for adoption from Nepal. But, not every country is like that at all. We adopted from Sierra Leone and it was no big deal. We want to start another SL adoption after the first of the year, considering up to 3 children, and its still not considered a big deal.

[nancynic]

Thank you for all that info!

[DenMA]

Colorbind, thank you! I think we had China in our heads and were getting a little tunnel vision. I will definitely check out all those places. We have a very good friend from Ghana, and cousins who were marries in Botswana, so African nations would be interesting to check out. Thanks again! I am off to research!

[thankfulmom]

New to this forum (actually forum's in general), but wanted to add my two cents
I was raised by my aunt and uncle and am the youngest of two in that family. Speant some time with my mom and step-dad and am the oldest of four in that family. Talk about confused birth order. My grandmother had 12 kids and I always wanted 12 also!
DH also comes from two sets of parents and was the oldest of two in one and oldest of 5 in the second. We always planned on adopting, though he only wanted 4.
We have 3 bio kids (grown and gone from nest), we helped raise 3 nieces (grown and gone, but come back with 5 grandbabies for us to love frequently), we adopted 4 (foster-adopt-individual), and are relicensing to foster and possibly adopt 2 more! God is good!

[CalandraLark]

I don't know if anybody is still interested in this info but Korea only allows for four children still in the home at the time of adoption and Ethiopia to my knowledge has no family size limit so long as financials are in order.