[mulligal]

I am a filipina (american citizen) and my husband is an Irish citizen but with a permanent green card. After 5 years of infertility, we are now thinking of adoption. How impossible would it be to find a filipino-caucasian child to adopt? Would it create a longer or shorter wait? We are willing to adopt a child over a year old.

[orphanagemom]

Hi,
Are you going to internationally adopt, or domestically? You might be able to find a caucasian/filipino in an orphanage, but the waiting time for a child would simply be according to whether or not any orphanage has what you are requesting. In domestic, you'd have to check around with agencies, or advertise in different areas. Good luck, and if you decide to adopt internationally, we'd love to help out any way we can!

[Joyisme]

I agree with the previous post, that it will probably take longer as mixed race children in the Philippines are not common.

My husband is also Irish and I am a Filapina, we will be seeking to adopt a little girl from the Philippines. I was concerned that he would not feel contected to this child as she will not be any part Irish but we feel that any child that needs a home would be welcomed.

Also, I was somewhat concerned about what society (other people may think) when they see a child who is obviously Asian like her mother and a Caucasian father - is that something that you are struggling with?

Joy : )

[mulligal]

I wasn't too concerned what other people may think when looking at us as a family. I was hoping that it might be easier to adopt a mixed child if culturally it was less acceptable (does that make sense?) A good friend of mine is Caucasian, his wife is Chinese and they have absolutely gorgeous daughters. He has often been asked "Where did you get them?" as if there is some type of grocery store for mixed kids! He finally started saying "From my wife's groin." He's trying to get less upset but I guess that happens with so many Asian adoptions here in America.

[Joyisme]

LOL! Your friend's answer to people's rude questions had me laughing.

I see your line of thinking. Back in the days (Vietnam war era) mixed raced children were shunned by Asian purist and many abandoned. I think that is no longer the case at least I hope so. Our son is Irish and Filipino (10 months old) - hoping to get him a little sis from the Fils.

Another idea that may be helpful. Perhaps an adoption agency (a Catholic children's home) near an American military base would be a good place to seek out a child of mixed heritage. Just a thought.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I often wonder if there are other cross cultural couples out there with questions about adopting.

Bets wishes to you and your husband, Joy : )

[JenBag]

I can understand your desire to want to adopt a filippino/caucasion child b/c of you and your husbands heritage. I am half filippino and my husband is caucasion. We have one biological 3 1/2 year old son. Because of my "strong" genes our son definitely looks more like me (dark brown eyes, brown hair, olive skin, etc.). My husband gets comments all the time about how my son doesn't look anything like him. He even had one stranger come up to him at the playground and said "wow your son looks just like his mother" . . . baffled my husband asked "do you know my wife?" . . . they said "no but he surely doesn't look like you!". So, this just shows that people will say ignorant things and you just have to go with the flow. Goes to show that even though we have a biological child it doesn't mean that we still won't get comments. In addition, we are waiting for our match for a PI little girl . . . and we can't wait!

[noelone]

My husband and I are both caucasian--our sons are from El Salvador and the Phillipines. Everyone we meet thinks THEY are biological brothers and look like BOTH me and my husband. We are flattered as both boys are extremely handsome! In general you will always meet STUPID people who will open their mouths and insert their feet. We live in an area where Africian Americians are not accepted--but both of our boys are well liked and chased after by the girls--while local people with mixed race grandchildren are threatened if their grandchildren visit them in this county. Go figure? We did not know this when we moved here, and we had almost adopted a 3yr old black/white mixed little girl, but it fell though. So we do feel the same. But we love the mountains, and our sons are accepted here, so we overlook some of the dumb people in the area. With your genetics--a birth child from the two of you would be more likely to look like you than your husband anyway--just like your friend. When someone says something stupid to you--just tell your husband to smile and say " Thank you-- We are glad you think our children look as beautiful as their mom! " My husband tells everyone the boys get their looks from him and their brains from me! Hope this is helpful, and good luck on your adoption.

[leenie71]

Mulligal,
I am also of Filipino heritage, but was born and raised here in the US (first generation American). I don't even speak Tagalog! My husband is German/Irish. I would also be interested in adopting a child of mixed heritage, but am worried that it would be difficult. We are also looking at adopting from a country such as Guatemala. Are adoptions in the Philippines more difficult than the other more "popular" countries? I don't seem to see much online about adoptions from this country.

Good luck to you

E

[Kazmum]

With ALL due respect (and I do mean ALL and EVERY respect), how important to you is that the baby is half Phillipino/half White? I only ask because I'm West Indian (basically, I look Black, but am really 1/2 black, 1/4 Chinese, 1/4 East Indian), and my husband is English (White) -- and while we adopted a biracial child, our child is Black/Hispanic. It's amazing how many people tell us how much she looks like us. I only ask the question, because the more flexible you are about the "biraciality" of your child, usually the quicker the process -- that is, it may be easier to find an Asian/Caucasian child, then a specifically Phillipino/Caucasian.

Please know I meant no disrespect by my post. Just thought I'd help!

The very best of luck to you!

K.

[Gilli]

My wife and I are in the process of adopting a baby (hopefully a girl) from The Philippines, at this time we are waiting for that phone call that will bring us a rush of emotions, giving us for the first time info about our daugther.
As for the race issue, well, both of us are Latinos (Mexicans) and the looks of our girl (skin color, etc) hasn't been a concern, granted we live in a diverse community in FL.
Actually part of me wishes the girl looks rather asian. (is it correct to say asian or oriental, sorry not sure)
Best wishes and God bless you, Gil

[leenie71]

Kazmum,
Since we are in the very beginning stages of deciding on adoption (and I do mean, the VERY beginning stages!), I think that we are still trying to figure everything out.....including how important it is to us. For me, adopting specifically a Filipino child is not essential for me, even though I am 100% Filipino. That is probably because I do not speak the language and I have never been to the Philippines. That's why I mentioned adopting from a country like Guatemala. I feel like people may automatically ask ( I live in a not- so diverse area) why we don't consider the Philippines as a country to adopt from. I know, who cares what other people think. I just want to make sure that we explore all of our options.

I think your post was definitely helpful for me!


Gil, I don't know about anyone else, but I prefer "Asian" rather than oriental (that's a rug). LOL Best of luck with the rest of the adoption process! And congratulations!

E

[Schel67]

Hi everyone,
I'm new to the boards and I just want to say thank you for all your post. It's a relief for me to see I am not alone in wanting to adopt a biracial baby because I'm part of a mixed marriage. I am Haole (white) and my husband is filipino. His two brothers are also married to haole girls and both have beautiful children. Unfortunately we have not been able to concieve during our married of 8 years. We now are researching our adoption options. It seems so much more difficult to adopt an asian/caucasian baby/child then we anticipated. If anyone would like to chat to me about what they have gone through so far on there quest to find thier biracial baby I'd appreciate any insight. Thanks again

[orphanagemom]

Hi,
Just wanted to add, my husband is full Filipino, and I am caucasian (very "pink" I've been told). Our three bio children look like my husband, and so does our newly adopted, full Filipino daughter! My husband tells everyone that I am adopted into the family! When I am out with my children, and my husband is not around, people stop me to tell me how cute my children are, and ask me if they are all adopted! I promise that three of them really did come out of me - I remember every pain!!! Anyone who wants our document on adopting from the Philippines, just pm me and send me your email, and I'll send it to you. I typed it up one day when I was sick of waiting for the Immigration office to get their work done! It lists all the costs, waiting time, and agencies we used. Good luck to all!
Jen

[orphanagemom]

Here's a pic of our little darlings!

[larryman]

Thanks for posting the picture of your most lovely kids. They are so GORGEOUS. They must be very intelligent as well.