[2xaround]

Josie, you hit the nail on the head. Sagging breasts, especially after breast feeding is a fact of life. I haven't seen "nubile young breasts" on my body since I finished breastfeeding my oldest who is turning 27 on Monday. I was 20 years old then and I'm 46 now.

Stormster, I haven't been reading this forum very long and just went through and read all the posts on this thread. I am a SAHM with no children at home yet. We are waiting for our case to be completed in Guatemala so we can travel to pick up our baby girl. I do remember what it was like being a SAHM with little ones and I know what it is like now being home with no little one to take care of. While we love our children dearly, it can get very lonely. I wanted to avoid that loneliness and began looking for a group of people I could connect with shortly after we began our adoption process. I joined every forum and Yahoo group I could find and posted notes telling people I was looking for a group of adoptive parents from Central Illinois. As a result of those posts, my husband and I are now part of a group of families who have adopted from Latin American countries and we have about 30 families as part of this group. From that group I have established some close relationships with some of the moms and we try to get together on a regular basis for adult time together.

I realize that putting yourself out there can be difficult, but not having a good support mechanism for those times when you really need someone to talk to is even more difficult. I would strongly encourage you to find other adoption forums and groups (but don't leave this one) and post a note asking for others in you general vacinity to send you a PM. You might be amazed at how many others are also out there looking for someone they can connect with and who knows, maybe you'll find your very best girlfriend this way.

Of course, if you do happen to be in the Central Illinois area, feel free to send me a PM. Even if you're not in Central Illinois feel free to send me a PM. I don't think we can ever have too many friends.

[Stormster]

Crick and the others who mentioned this: I am depressed. I have very negative thoughts and constantly worry I'm not good enough to be a mother. And in general, I"m blue.

I feel racist for going out of my way to adopt a caucasian child (DH request but I easily agreed)

I feel like I don't smile enough and I'm way to quiet because I'm afraid I'll cough and that he will be scarred for life by my jarring cough

I feel old and wrinkly when I hold his hand

I worry about the future and my age etc. and that he has no siblings.

i am afraid I'll parent like my mother (not good) and everything she ever did runs through my mind like an old movie.

The problem is all the thoughts are NEGATIVE.

Any of you who have mentioned helping me find a group please do. Open domestic would be great because most of my issues relate to that!?

THANKS

[dragonfly1234]

((((Stormster))))

The first thing you need to do is find a really good doctor so that you can start to feel like you again. Then he or she will have great advice for groups that you can join to help you along with your feeling better as you!

You take care and keep us posted!!! We care how you are doing!